Can a Family Court Judge in NJ?

Question

Can a Family Court force my son that has extreme an extreme anxiety disorder force my son to go to his Dad's for visition?Going to his Dad's is just an underlying proble. He doesn't go out with friends, going on elevators, being without me for 5 minutes, if I', in the house has to know where I am at all times, won't go on school trips, won't go to restautants etc. But his father thinks it's because I am stopping him from going. I beg my son to go with his gahter. It has nothing to do with his father, it's his anxiety. He is 10 and has lost the first 10 years of his life. If he's forced, he will ever get better, he is seeing a psychologist for 8 months and now he is finally working on his anxiety, rather than why he doesn't want to go to his Dad's. He in so much pain, I cry constantly, especially when he lies to his friends why he can't go somewhere. He always has a story for them because he's embarrased why he can't go. What will the court's do?

I'm always asking my questions in the wrong category. I should ask in Mental Health. My 10 year old son is sick, he has anxiety about everything, including going to his father's house. I have done everything I can possibly do to get him to go to his father's house. I had a great divorce with his father, we were great friends until money got involved last year, We have gone to the mvies with his Dad, out to eat, I even let him come to my home to go in our pool. Even after the money problems, I still wanted to still be friends, he absolutely would not do it. I invited him into my home, offered him 4 free Yankee tickets to take my son(if he woul go) I've NEVER said a bad thing about their father, I practically begged their Dad to at least be civil with me. He said not until I change I still don't know what that means. I've tried everything. Our friendship is gone and according to him to be civil is also gone. But once again, it isn't only going to his Dads. I want him to be with his Dad.

Answer 1

As long as a father has not abused or mistreated his child, and that father WANTS to spend time with HIS CHILD, then that father has EVERY RIGHT to spend time with that child....He should NOT have anxiety over visiting his FATHER unless SOMEONE planted the "seed" in his head that he SHOULD be anxious about it.....if you have done ANYTHING to desuade the child ---like bad mouthing his father TO HIM, that COULD give the child anxiety about HAVING to see him---couples when they divorce sometimes don't realize that they are doing GREAT HARM to their CHILDREN when they talk about the absent spouse in ANY derogatory way around those children!!!! It's also in some states TOTALLTY AGAINST THE LAW..... it is called PARENTIAL ALIENATION---look it up--it's a rather interesting read... BUT, if you are 100% CERTAIN that this anxiety about visiting his OWN FATHER was not in the LEAST LITTLE BIT caused by YOU, then you should be working WITH your husband to make the transition less painful to your son.... No matter if you HATE the guy---have him come over and BE ON YOUR BEST BEHAVIOR so that the child gets USED to seeing his dad in FRIENDLY CIRCUMSTANCES--even if you have to INVITE THE GUY TO DINNER with you and your son....have several visits planned where you, your EX and your son are involved in something FUN.... this will lesson the anxiety GREATLY and allow your child to be READY soon to go on outings ALONE with his father.... if you DON'T do this for the sake of your SON, then I would probably think you might be using what you perceive as your son's ILLNESS to keep him away from his father...... PUT DOWN THE SWORDS FOR A WHILE (both you and your ex) and work TOGETHER for the sake of your SON!!!

Answer 2

Yes, the court can force visitation.

Whether it would or should is a different question. But it has the legal authority to force visitation.