My fiance and I both work for the same company located on the east coast. My fiance works in the same office as his boss, but my boss lives in another state (along the east coast as well). We are getting married on the west coast, and will be inviting some friends from work. Here's where it gets sticky: my fiance is going to invite his boss. Since we all work for the same company, should I invite my boss as well? My boss will probably not come, but should I extend an invitation to her, or will it just look like I'm fishing for gifts (which I'm not, but I don't want her to feel left out)?
2007-07-22 06:44:11 · 16 answers · asked by dma 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes invite her, out of courtesy
2007-07-22 06:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by misspinkdiamond 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go ahead and invite her so she does not feel you invited his boss but you did not invite her. I think she will appreciate it and if you and your boss get a long she might send a gift just because she values your work and wants to celebrate the most important day in your life with you.
2007-07-22 14:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good relationship with your boss it's a great idea. However, keep in mind that many bosses or employers won't get personally involved in events with employees so that they aren't viewed as favoring that employee in the work place. It's a nice gesture, but don't be upset with your boss if he/she doesn't come to your wedding. Also, if you are inviting several people that you work with, especially other superiors, it would be polite to invite your boss as well.
2007-07-22 13:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite your boss if the two of you have a relationship outside of work. If she is just your boss and you do not know each other on a personal level then you do not have to invite her.
2007-07-22 13:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite.
2007-07-22 14:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by Kaye00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it is a sticky situation, I would simply ask the boss. Explain that you are not fishing for gifts, but that you don't want to offend anyone and would like her to share your joy if it wouldn't be an imposition ( since there is travel involved).
2007-07-22 14:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think for the sake of diplomacy if he's inviting his boss, you should invite yours. You can always put a handwritten note on hers saying "gifts not necessary".
2007-07-22 13:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would. You could always include a little note or tell her verbally that you want her to be a part of the celebration, but if she can't make it due to the distance, then you understand. That way it won't seem like you are fishing for gifts.
2007-07-22 13:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you invite one boss you should invite them both.
2007-07-22 13:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by Suz123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you don't have that type of relationship I would not invite her but if you just want to you can post a general invitation at the job site and all that want to come can come.
2007-07-22 13:49:55 · answer #10 · answered by Too-hot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most wedding etiquette guides say that you should invite bosses if you are including co-workers.
2007-07-22 13:49:07 · answer #11 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋