for a couple days. She used to not want to do anything at all but now she is social again after I constantly called her un-social. Is this normal that she doesn't want to be with her friends every single day?
2007-07-22 06:32:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
And when she doesnt do anything with her friends she just lays around the house.
2007-07-22 06:40:08 · update #1
she is sixteen years old in august/.
2007-07-22 06:40:28 · update #2
There is really no reason that they need to be together 24/7. Kids need down time to just relax and be kids. They don't have to have everything planned out for them either. They need to be able to make some decisions about how to spend their time.
2007-07-22 06:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At any age, I don't think I could hang out with my friends each and every single day... They would start to get on my nerves. Perhaps her and her friend are in a spat, or her friend has found something else to do. Perhaps, your daughter just wants to sit at home. Calling her 'unsocial' is not going to help at all. You shouldn't make her feel bad for not wanting to be social! Many parents out there wish their teens would stay home more often so they don't have to worry about the teens so much!
When she's in one of her 'slumps', try doing something with her, instead of nagging her for not going out with friends. Go shopping and/or out to eat. Spend some time with her, and maybe she'll open up. Try talking to her about it, instead of nagging her.
2007-07-22 13:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by Thinking 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im 15 and i know that hanging out with ur friends is a big thing to do.
this might sound a little insulting, but friends in high school are just a little more important to us. we only have 3 more years where we are for sure we will see our best friends and since this is the summer we dont wanna waste a second without them.
for us, our best friends are pretty much our family and the ones that get you through alot.
dont get me wrong, parents our very important to us. but where we are in our life she might need her friends more than you, and if not....it seems like it to her.
the best thing you can do right now is to let her have her fun and not keep pushing trying to be with her. it makes it even harder for us to enjoy this part of our life if u do try and keep her from her friends.
2007-07-22 16:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by Hannahhh. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's about 14, a truly mercurial age, with ups and downs almost like a bouncing ball. Let her have her alone time; time for reflection. Don't hound her to be what you want her to be, as she's just figuring out who she is.
Are you trying to re-live your teens thru her? Analyze your motives for forcing her to "socialize".
2007-07-22 13:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by Patsy A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah mom, it's time to call it quits on your daughter's social life.
She's almost a woman now, and she has to live and learn. It's good that you want to be protective of her, but it's good to know when enoughs enough. And name calling? That's just not cool, even in kindergarten.
2007-07-22 22:12:01 · answer #5 · answered by x_Falling_star_x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may have been a small argument or someother things that made her just want to stay home. She may have just been burnt out from being out with her friends all the time. It happens to me a lot!
2007-07-22 13:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by Rayve 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. It sounds like she just needs to take a break. She's not being antisocial, just learning how to be her own person.
2007-07-22 13:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by emerald_ravenstar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what that's normal. you seem to be making a big deal about nothing. If she's not with her friends cant she be at home?
2007-07-22 16:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋