Married and divorced women: Did you stop?

Question

thinking about your ex(es) once you got married or do you always wonder what could have been?

Answer 1

It's hard letting go of your favorite toy, but if you love your current partner and nothing's missing, it'll stop. If it doesn't, then you might perhaps reevaluate your current relationship...What's missing that your ex had?

Answer 2

For me, my ex was an absolute idiot! He lied, cheated, hit me, wouldn't work or wouldn't pay the bills when he did work. He wasn't a good father to the kids and when we divorced, he moved out of state to be with a woman he met online and hasn't seen the kids since or paid any child support at all.

I know my life and the lives of my kids would have stayed a wreck, so I don't think about it in terms of wondering what could have been. I am much happier and so are the kids with my current husband.

There was a guy I dated for a while I had a wonderful relationship with that I do occasionally wonder about. Then I think about my husband and the love we have and am happy that "what could have been" with the other guy wasn't. I think everything happens for a reason and that I ended up exactly where I belong.

Answer 3

I am divorced after being married for 13 years. I have never looked back or wondered what could have been. My ex was emotionally/verbally and then became physically abusive. I have 3 children with him and my ex validates everyday the reasons why I divorced him.
I am in a completely different relationship now, my boyfriend is loving, emotionally stable & supportive and not abusive in anyway. Divorce was the best decision I made because I am a much happier person & a better mom to my children!

Answer 4

I don't think about them now, but there's always the thought of what are they doing now? That's natural. I am in a great marriage. Even though we got married at a young age, things are going great for us. We have 2 kids and are financially stable. I'm getting ready to start law school next fall and will be starting a great job within the next year. I don't regret the decision that I made to marry my current husband. None of my ex's could have given me the life that I have now and the wonderful children that I have. I am truly blessed to have such a wonderful family and to top it all off, we each get along rather well with our in-laws. I wouldn't have it any other way.

Answer 5

I am planning my divorce right now and I already don't care what she is doing and we still live under the same roof. In fact, I DON'T want to know what she is doing. She's unattractive, selfish and a child inside, why should I care about that?

I stopped caring about what could have been when I realized that the past is exactly what the future would have been. People don't really change.

Answer 6

I think everyone has fleeting thoughts about what could have been. But...in the long run, if you married the man you love most and are committed to, you know that you made the best choice and that the other relationships probably wouldn't have worked out. Look at the man you have now and realize you made the best deal for yourself.

Answer 7

Why do no longer you ask his spouse in case you could communicate with him and notice what form of reaction you will get? you already be attentive to that what you're doing is incorrect yet you ask this question so which you will get somebody else's blessing to flow forward and do what you're doing !!! human beings do no longer end to think of approximately how lots they're hurting the different lady/guy that's harmless to the certainty their better half is having an affair. whilst the different 0.5 unearths out with regards to the affair and brings issues YOUR way you have no selection yet settle for those issues considering you added them on your self with the aid of having in contact of their existence. All you're able to do is examine the newspapers and notice most of the severe reactions of persons who've grow to be in contact in affairs. You by no skill be attentive to how a individual will react. in basic terms some meals for concept.

Answer 8

No. I will always wonder if something could have been different. Even though I am more sure of who I am. I wonder if my relationship would have different if I was as secure then as I am now.
Not sure if this helps but it really depend on how much was invested in the relationship. Mine was over 15 years of my life. I will always wonder if it could have been or should have been different.

Answer 9

I have been with my husband for almost 15 years. We have had great times, bad times and sad times, but we always have the memories of when and how we fell in love, that is what keeps us together.

I do have what I refer to as my "what if" guy. I dated him off and on for several years prior to meeting my husband.

Yes, I will always think of him, but he wasn't the one the worked to sweep me off my feet and commit the rest of his life to me.

Recently, we (my ex & I) have emailed back and forth, it is a great time exhanging memories, but even now I know that his wife isn't #1 in his life, and I would never settle for that.

The past is the past for a reason, you can't go back, but you can learn and move forward. Keep those memories close as they are what made you the person you are today.

Answer 10

If your still thinking about the ex maybe you shouldnt have split up. I know it might not have been your choice. But you should work out or resolve all feelings before starting with someone else. Otherwise your being unfair to the new person and yourself.

Answer 11

No, when I married I had all my loose ends tied up. There was NO question in my mind that those Ex's were gone from my life and that they were truly failed relationships.

I would not have married if I had any doubts.