He will often throw something and cuss which makes it obvious to me he is upset at me (usually over something small like me rushing him to get ready if we're late for something), but when I confront him about it and ask him if I've upset him, he will act like he doesn't know what I'm talking about. He says he's not mad at all and that he doesn't understand why I would think he is...when I explain that his behavior expressed anger, he claims to not know what I'm talking about and he'll change the subject. I think he's probably trying to avoid confrontation, but I need him to be honest about his feelings and let me know when he's mad at me instead of lying about it or trying to cover it up... Has anyone dealt with this before? How should I handle this behavior?
2007-07-22 05:41:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe he has rage that he is trying to keep in tact. He needs to talk to someone. Even if it's just one session.
2007-07-22 05:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be mad at you. I used to always assume when he was angry that it had to be my fault, but through talking found out that is not the case. Most of the time he is angry with himself or something outside the house that happened (work or whatever). Never assume that just because he is angry that he is angry with you. During a calm time make an agreement, when one of you is angry but not at the other, give a verbal warning; "dear, I am angry about something at work, I don't want to talk about it but don't want you to think I am mad at you", then drop it, don't pester him for info. He has to work it out in his head by himself. It's a man thing.
2007-07-22 05:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by msims52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be happy that your husband wants to avoid confrontations and covers it up after he gets angry. that shows that he wants to avoid an argument or a fight. if you continue to press the issue and provoke him further that can just escalate things, and if you are arguing a lot it can really damage a relationship (believe me I know). what is the point of getting him to admit when he was angry at you? what do you accomplish? if he wants to let it go, you should too. you are lucky your husband is like this, I wish mine was!
2007-07-22 05:49:32 · answer #3 · answered by kallista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he ever hits you with one of those flying objects, that will piss you off to no end and you will have no problem letting him know about it and another thing...avoiding a confrontation about it will be the last thing you care about.
2007-07-22 06:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am thinking divorce would be a good idea
2007-07-22 05:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋