Do you believe that you have the ability to choose whether you feel hurt by others actions? Why or why not?
2007-07-22 05:09:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Well when I was unaware, I didn't know I was being hurt. And when I woke up, I realised I was being hurt. I could see how it affected my life too. I choose to be blind ,even though I was told (or tempted to see the ugly truth). I now knowing these "hurts" must be so that my friends have (even with all thier faults) have helped, me as I them.
So I guess.... ya, you can and or choose. It still hurts, but over time you have to deciede what to hurt over. Like they say you have to learn to pick your fights. I say you have to learn to pick the wounds you lick.
2007-07-22 05:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO, I do not. I believe that I have the ability to choose how to respond to that hurt, either by wallowing in it or getting beyond it to a better place. A person cannot control the gut-level reaction ..... only how they react to that reaction. Pain, at some level, is part of life. Deal with it and move on. This is how human beings grow and become better than they were.
2007-07-22 12:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by naniannie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it entails circumstances within a loving relationship, some hurt is expected to occur only because we are imperfect. Misunderstandings do occur in some instances even if trusting the other partner is apparent. It is how these feelings are dealt with that matters most. Both must have a willingness to discuss issues in a civil, mature, respectful, and loving way. Communication is the key to weathering storms, whether they come intentionally or unintentionally. Circumstances are almost always going to occur, but having a willingness to be open to what hurts with your partner is very important in reaching a consensus.
2007-07-23 03:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm like teflon when it comes to aggressive or insulting behaviour, and I won't even feel angry or feel any superior or inferior to them (to me it is just people venting their emotions). However, in some circumstances I can get upset if it is from people whom have authority, such as boss/manager being unreasonable, or people that I have a lot of memories with such as parents (you know how it is), or close friends that I realise aren't that close at all. Generally I show an emotional reaction only to my parents, but for other people I am skilled at concealing my feelings by being conscious of any body language, or changes in my tone of voice that might reveal them - I usually portray the feeling that the person is inconsequential to my feelings, and that I am always a bright and positive person even in the face of hostility - whilst still remaining respectful towards them.
2007-07-22 12:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by driving_blindly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
times are a changing always. what you are choosing today, might be obselete tomorrow. true love is true love and doesn't call for a choice. i never choose anything, it just comes to me , if it is there for me. when you are making an effort to choose the best, it generally turns out to be a futile one...there is always someone better than the best there..
there are some circumstances in life , which are imposed upon you due to your past deeds and it is very difficult to wash away your hands from them..so ability to choose is a very relative term, when..choice itself is relative.there is always better than the best and there is no end to it. it depends to individual the weightage of love is more than the weightage of feeling hurt :) or vice versa
2007-07-23 02:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I feel to have the ability to be hurt by others actions or not.
Imagine a situation, you have a fight or a debate or a brawl with someone you dont know, you wont feel that bad, but if the same thing happens with someone you love, you feel devastated. this is all about maturing emotionally and being able to control your feelings.
2007-07-23 00:04:05 · answer #6 · answered by Brave Heart 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You always have the ability to choose.
The actions of others are incosequential to your inherent ability to act as you choose.
Right or wrong why would your feeling hurt by others change your free will?
2007-07-22 12:42:33 · answer #7 · answered by opinionator 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In theory I think we all have a choice as to how we react to others, but in practical terms it can be very difficult, especially if you have a strong emotional bond to that person. Wouldn't it be great if we could all live without attachments of any sort, material or emotional? Im not sure thats realistic.
I think all you can do in this life is avoid those people or situations that cause you pain, as much as you can. If you do feel yourself getting drawn in, try to become the detached observer & just allow them to act out their drama without your involvement. That's my aim anyway.
With love, good wishes & blessings to you as always.
2007-07-22 17:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe you you have the ability to choose...no matter what...so long as you didn't let your emotions affect your choice...dont let your emotion come between you and your thoughts...only then you can choose no matter what.
2007-07-22 12:49:58 · answer #9 · answered by CuriousG 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. it's called mind control and discipline-as long as I allow others to control what I think I am giving them all power over me but I have the power to cut the strings like puppets to not allow their words or actions to hurt me.
2007-07-22 12:30:00 · answer #10 · answered by luminous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋