lack of sex?

Question

what dose it mean when your girlfriend doesn't want to have sex with you, im in my 30's and had sex twice in 3 1/2 months???

and we have been together for 14 years

Answer 1

Well, you guys have been together for awhile. I think maybe she just needs you to do something a little out of the norm. For example, surprise her with dinner at a nice restaurant. Women love when their man plans something out her just to show her that he still cares.

Answer 2

Sounds like she's not feeling you no more...not trying to hurt your feelings, but women normally are hot all the time lol. Did you try asking her? Maybe she is not interested in you anymore and afraid of hurting your feelings.

I would really sit down and have a serious talk with her. Tell her how you feel and that you want your needs met. But, twice in 3 1/2 months..that is a long time..Is is that long for her as well or just you?

That is something to think about..and hard too! But, all you have to do is ask her..see if she is still interested in you..if she takes a while to answer you or beat around the bush, sort of speak...there you go..she maybe doing it with someone else on the down low..

I hope in your case this is not so..but you do need to hear the truth..and when you do..don't go into denial..deal with it, get over it..and meet someone who will cater to your needs and vice versa..because 3 1/2 months dude is a freaking long time!

Good luck with this one!

Answer 3

You need to find out the reason why she doesn't want to have sex with you, then go on from there and try to solve the problem. It's not normal to have sex only twice in 3 1/2 months.

Answer 4

This is not really that unusual, you've probably got to that stage where you're treating her like a pair of comfy slippers and neglecting her a bit . As you haven't mentioned anything apart from the fact that she doesn't want to have sex with you then there's not alot of advice that would be true to you, however.... I would try just sitting down and talking to her ( not about the lack of sex though just normal everyday stuff) and look her in the eye when you talk to her not the tv!! , take her out for a drink ( to a nice quiet pub), treat her like you've just met again ( if you can remember what it was like) and her feelings for you in that area should naturally return as she will feel valued by you and therefor want to become physical again.... If this fails then I would suggest you tackle it head on and ask her outright if she still finds you attractive... Good Luck and chill out, you still have yourself if things get that bad!!

Answer 5

Ask her, this is the best answer that you are going to get is from her. We all can give you the basis reasons that she might be seeing someone else or that you are sorry in bed or any of the other reason why women typically don't care to have sex. Ask her, she could be experiencing something with her body. If you all had a decent sex life before hand and she now don't care to there is a reason, ask her

Answer 6

together for 14 years???????????? wel I believe it came to the routine world, where sex once in a while is normal....Are you guys in this stage?
the thing is that you guys are still young and the best of the sex age is yet to come, but oh, well, not all are the same, and still OK.
Talk to her, maybe you and her need to be more romantic or both look into new things, the important thing is not to let that fire dissapear.
This is you only solution...talk,talk, talk, don't be wondering in this intimate things of two.
You both have the best answer. Good luck!!

Answer 7

No matter what age you are or for how long you have been together,it just depends on how you do it,spice things up abit.Sit down & talk about what things you are both wanting as you can get bored with the same positions after awhile.When i say spice things up i mean try different positions & have sex in different places of your house,be spontanious & dont be afraid to try different things,as it is only you & your partner who will know what is going on in your house.Use your immagination & it will improve,practice makes perfect as they say & it is fun trying different things,positions & always try things at least once.

Answer 8

Honey, she is tired. She is probably having sex with someone else. Try to spice it up with roll-playing or bringing other things to bed such as toys. If she still does not want to have sex then you can either stay or go. If she still says that she loves you and you guys still have fun besides sex then you still have a relationship. 14 years is along time, but why aren't you married? By not marrying her you have given her space to find someone else.

Answer 9

it means that the poor dear has had a sexual traumatic experience in her life that has never been resolved. either from you, because you've been together for 14yrs. or with someone from her childhood. you never mentioned how old you gf, is. but if she's younger than you, it could be that your coupling is causing her pain. or you are not taking enough time for foreplay. believe it or not ( there are many, many women and girl's who have never, or very seldom experience orgasm)! but to keep from disappointing their partner's they'll fake it, from start to finish. and listen to your boasting of your performance, never letting on that they never felt a thing. which feels more like a violation to them. if you fall into this category, you need to change direction's, and let her do the driving. maybe your male dominance is blinding you to the fact that she is a gentle women. and needs more tender, loving care. if not you must face the facts,and sit down with her and explain that you care deeply for her and want both of you to share the pleasures of the act itself. and if she is not being fulfilled to let you know, and tell her you're willing to do whatever it takes to help her achieve her satisfaction. or to resolve whatevers keeping her from doing so. meaning a sex therapist. tell her you'll be there for her no matter what. and keep in mind.if you really love her, like cheese and wine. it just gets better with time. now you know.

Answer 10

Can I ask you a few questions to think about...
Has she been overly tired lately?
Any problems at work?
Has she seen a doctor lately?
Because it could be hormones!
It sounds like something is amiss along these lines, because hubby and I are in our late 30's and we still make love anywhere from 10 to 50 times a month.
It is according to his work schedule and weather or not he is tired. I mean, if I want it I ask, but I do not push him into it.
Talk to her heart to heart, she what she says...I mean I am almost 30 weeks pregnant and I am still wanting sex!
SO something is up with her.

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