How to deal with a bossy husband?

Question

I feel like I'm my husband's child rather than his wife. He treats me like a child often. It has made me feel angry and bad about myself over time. How do I stop being treated like a child? Does anyone else have a husband that treats them like a child?

Answer 1

Yes I do. And it does dappen your spirits. The thing that has helped me is to start standng up to him. Let him know you are his partner, not his child and that you would appreciate being treated as an adult. But some men think that their spouse is an object they own. Let him know that if he doesn't change his ways, that you and the children will go elsewhere, it worked for me.

Answer 2

Bossy Husband

Answer 3

I feel so sad for you - but happy that you are at least 20 something. I would find the right moment - research - and find a one-way-ticket to somewhere where someone cared about you! I have one daughter - and she's around your age - and I raised her to be the best she could be - and I supported her without anger or fear from the time she was born - to the day she got married. Find some help and relocate. For example - here in Alaska - there's nursing school - whereas - most of these programs are paid for by grants and other hospitals. My sister-in-law got her full BA through these grants. There are other states that do the same thing. You must do your research - ask for help - check with your library and get some assistance. As a father - I am ashamed of your father - who doesn't know what he has - what he's missing - what he's destroying! There is no excuse or logic behind his actions. Best Wishes - hoping you find your answers!

Answer 4

I suspect that you knew he was like this from the beginning and in the beginning you liked it but now you don't. OK if you do not want to be treated like a child, do not accept that treatment. You need to sit your husband down and tell him how what he is doing is making your feel and that you want it to stop right now. Then you need to look at yourself your attitudes and your actions and see if there might be a reason your husband treats you the way he does. IF you act all helpless and dumb and do not do what you should be doing and in general act like a child instead of an adult then you need to check those actions and make a change in yourself so that you are perceived as being an adult. Get into counceling with or without him. Learn to stand up for yourself You cannot be bossed around if you refuse to be bossed around. If none of this works to change things you might need to change husbands. Good Luck

Answer 5

I might totally be going the wrong way with this (sorry if I am) but depending on your (or his previous) religious background, it may be the cause of this. I know in religions where the Bible is the dominant source of literature, lots of couples who get together in the same faith, after being a part of it some time have this sort of problem. Its becauses the Bible speaks of the roles of both the husband and wife and a lot of times, it is misinterpreted that the wife is a slave and such....in reality it says she has to be submissive but the husband is to treat her with love and respect yada yada. However, like I said, I could be completely in the wrong area with this...

If not that, maybe during his upbringing he saw something like this that led him to believe that this sort of thing is okay. I'm not saying abuse, but maybe his father did his mother the same way?

And then, giving him the benefit of the doubt, he might not know he's doing it. The best bet would be to talk to him and let him know that his extra tasks given are not appreciated. If someone really loves you, when you tell them theres something you dont like about a situation, they should try their best to correct it.

Answer 6

his he a Scorpio?
if so it's who they are, they like to be listen to and don't like to listen to other.

I don't mean to bring up the sign thing but it's just that some time, the sign thing make since.

Well, talk to him about his behavior and he should understand where you are coming from with it.
He may not change because it's who he is, so i suggest you take him for who he is and remind him again and again that he is acting up and that might ring the bell slowly to him and he will work on the controlling.
It's all about the communication, speak your mind, open up to him, he need to know and you need to know why he does what he does.

Answer 7

I had a husband that liked to put me down and was very controlling and he wasn't older. I found out later he was trying to break my self esteem so that I wouldn't leave him.

He thought if I thought no one else would like me or want I would stay with him forever. Luckily, I am much stronger then that and I did leave him when things got physical and I met a man who taught me how I was supposed to be treated. I was lucky to get out of the cycle of bad men who treat women like dirt but I Have friends who are stuck in it. They believe they are unworthy and always end up with guys who treat them like dirt.

Funny thing is..now my ex is with a controlling female who runs the show..and he likes it!!

I would talk to your husband. If he isn't willing to change I doubt things will and you may just have to leave unless you can put up with it. I deserved better and eventually found it..

Answer 8

You need to let him know that you feel this way. Because treating you like that is wrong.Let him know how you feel. Try to come up with a solution. I'm sorry but in this subject, you are generally on your own.

Answer 9

1.Just offer a Super gift on his B'day or any other special day to him.
2.Go place with him and explain speciality of the places with your skill.
3.Just help yr child on their studies,automatically ur Husb will know ur skill.

Answer 10

Yes because he wants to be in charge.