Do You Often Find Yourself Still Blaming Your Parents..??

Question

they were too harsh..too nice...etc, etc...

Answer 1

parent,my father specifically and i blame him until now,for being so harsh,insensitive and self centered!Imagine he couldnt pay my payment for the exam because he went to taiwan with a woman!!plus that woman isnt mother nor do I even know her!!he secretly annuled my mother in a fraudulent mother and right now he never comes home!He is ruiningmy life rightnow and I blame him for all the suffering Im experiencing right now

Answer 2

Nah. I could've run away and gone to foster care like one of my friends did. I don't even think back on that stuff except whenever hearing something my much younger sister did better at after my mom got a pair and decided to parent, or when at a doctor's office and am asked why I didn't get my jaw fixed way back when and why I let certain things go for too long. Some don't like to help people who didn't get helped when they were younger, you see. So it's very trying to find a good orthodontist, a good this or that. But.... Mostly I see my parents as people who didn't know any better and not part of anything going on with me today. I am responsible for myself. So no hard feelings.

Answer 3

it's not a question of too harsh...too nice...etc, etc... they turned their back when I really needed them the most. It took me a long time to come to the conclusion that they did the best they could. I don't blame them anymore but I did not forgive.

Answer 4

Nope! Well, yes where it comes to education, but no where it come to character. I turned out fairly decent. I'm a "groovy" guy. However, if my parents would have taken a role in my education I would be a physician right now and earning $200,000 a year! I had the chance for a scholarship and didn't know it till after I was out of the navy. Other than their un-involvement, they were acceptable parents.

Answer 5

I'm sure in alot of ways they were the best parents you could ever hope for. But they were too young and too working class, too constantly strapped for money and there were alot of things they just had no way of knowing. Can't blame them for any of that. But I feel sad whenever I see very young working class kids with a baby.

Answer 6

I DID blame them for many years until I accepted that they were just very immature and had a deadly disease of alcoholism, both of them. The abusiveness I do still blame them for but now that I'm a grandma myself I have to learn to let go and avoid my my one living parent who CANNOT love. She can't help her own narcissism.

Answer 7

i use to until i was old enough to change my outcome in life. At some point it is ridiculous to blame you parents. I say when you are old enough to do things for yourself and if you still do not it is your fault. i know my brothers may get really upet b/c they have a sh*tty life and then they blame my moms still! and they are 25! go figure!

Answer 8

i wished that were the case.
i do blame my parents for a lot, but, i think i deal with it pretty
healthy. i love my mom, but, the past was real. i wouldn't want any child to live what i lived through emotionally. i do not use it as an excuse or a crutch. i moved on.

Answer 9

I blame my father for the horrible things he did, yes. He is responsible for his actions and only him. I am not sure where he learned to be a parent, but I am pretty sure that physical and verbal abuse is not allowed.

Answer 10

I grew up in a very dysfunctional family due to alcoholism, and it has taken me many years to get over it. But, thru it all, I knew we were loved and we were brought up to be productive adults. I have come to realize that was one of my life's lessons.