I need help. I have no hope in my life. I hate my job, my living situation.?

Question

I just feel hopeless, like nothing will ever get better no matter what I try to get out of my boring life.

Answer 1

I felt like that for 17 years. And then again after I was married and our income was so low that I was afraid that I would not be able to do for my wife and children.
In spite of no hope whatsoever, I found solutions. I found a way to feed my family when our relatives had turned against us. I gladly sold all of my tools so our children could have a wonderful Christmas. I'll tell you what, sacrificing is far better than sitting there hoping. If I had relied upon hope, the looks on our children's faces Christmas morning would devastate me to this day.
If I hadn't swallowed my pride and begged to work in the back of the grocery store, they would have not eaten.
If my wife had not come along when she did to help with my hatred, I'd be in prison or on death row now.
If I had left home in spite of how hard our father tore into us with the hose, I wouldn't have a high school diploma and would probably be in prison now.
Trial and error, pain and suffering is how I learned to stay alive this far. We're still hated by our relatives and not welcomed to their homes, but we have each other. My wife and children are my life. Nothing else matters.
Whatever you do, don't give up. Somethings seem to take forever, but they will get better if you give it a chance and don't take blind shots in the dark. Don't just instantly assume it's over when you cannot get something done. There is always another way.

"Hope is nothing more than wishful thinking. It abrogates definitive focus and creates false friends whom are much worse than true enemies."--Sun Tzu

Answer 2

You arent alone like the previous person stated. We all feel like that in fact some days are total gray days other days are totally blue. I know for a fact you can make small changes daily that can alter that feeling you have right now. Take some courses that you enjoy and you never know that can lead to a whole new job change. Are you alone then join some clubs or activities to meet someone new. If you are with someone you do not enjoy being with, well try to spark up the relationship by trying new things as a couple. I know one thing in my life nothing stays the same. When you are hit with a sad situation like a death for instance you will see the beauty in those days you called "boring" and certainly wish you had more of them. Instead of "boring" see it as peaceful days.

Answer 3

Life is pretty big thing, let's try and tackle boredom for the next five minutes.

Go to google search, ask yourself, "What words do I feel like searching, right now? Words that fill me up with same passion and enthusiam that I once felt." And then do just that and rest will follow, who knows you just might your career path some where in it.

To get even more clarity - Ask yourself a simply question, "If money wasn't the issue, what would I be rather doing?"

Also start paying attention to all the things that are going right in your life, as that what you appreciate grows.

Answer 4

One time per week on the phases of the moon spend one hour meditating. Then keep a diary of what you want out of life and any ideas of how you might achieve them. Also determine how well your ideas are working every week. On the new moon begin your new ideas. On the rest of the phases determine if all is going well. Keep only what you want, get rid what you do not want if you can. If you can not, ask you self why. Keep all your notes from week to week. This will once again put you in control of your own existence.
Bless you and good luck!
John

Answer 5

"To live, man must hold three things as the supreme and ruling values of his life: Reason - Purpose - Self-esteem. Reason as his only tool of knowledge - Purpose, as his choice of the happiness which that tool must proceed to achieve - Self-esteem, as hi inviolate certainty that his mind is competent to think and his person is worthy of happiness, which means: is worthy of living."

You need the right philosophy to live. Once you have discovered a reason to live, purpose, then self-esteem will follow. Before all that you need the proper philosophy to understand why you need reason to live.

"As a human being, you have no choice about the fact that you need a philosophy. Your only choice is whether you define your philosophy by a conscious, rational, disciplined process of thought and scrupulously logical deliberation - or let your subconscious accumulate a junk heap of unwarranted conclusions, false generalizations, undefined contradictions, undigested slogans, unidentified wishes, doubts and fears, thrown together by chance, but integrated by your subconscious into a kind of mongrel philosophy and fused into a single, solid weight: self-doubt, like a ball and chain in the place where your mind's wings should grown."

Answer 6

Change your values. If you love pleasure above all things you will seek it and be unhappy because you can never get enough. I f you value knowledge you will almost never experience bordom, but every moment won't be simply delightful! You will still find happiness visiting you when you might least expect it! Art, Music, Philosophy: make your intellectual house as big as possible. The universe gave you a big brain and if you don't use it, it gets cranky.

Answer 7

don't give up. that is one of those times when patience truly is a virtue. i know that nobody want to hear that they must wait for things to get better. you CAN change things. start looking for a new job, a different home. only u can change your life. take it from me, nobody else is going to change it for you. i had to learn that the hard way. you are the source of your own happiness and if u keep that in mind, nothing anyone else does can affect you as much.

Answer 8

Boredom is not bad or wrong. Being boring is not bad or wrong. People with the most chaotic lives usually have a strong opinion about or against boredom.

However, you could make some changes. Someone once told me, if you can't change your situation, change your perception of it.

Answer 9

Well, we all have things to complain about, but think about the good things...there is an old saying that sounds like this: "Every cloud has a silver lining". Perhaps you need to search for that silver lining and when you find it, you will smile and realize that the problems are as serious as we allow them to be...do not give up your search for that silver lining...it is there...at the edge of a cloud...cheers to you!!!

Answer 10

Dear waterlilly,

You may be suffering from a condition known as "clinical depression." This is not something you can overcome quickly and easily by simply "changing your perspective"--although that's one of the things you need to do. See if you can find a competent therapist.

Peace and good luck.