About a year ago I made mistakes, bad crowd. Though I regretted and apologized my parents were extremely harsh. Today they are proud of me, but I got so resentful that since then I've hardly spoken with them, I'm polite but distant. Now they want me to act as I used to before they punished me, want my love and trust back. My resentful behavior is driving them mad. But I can't see them as loving parents, can't get over. I don't do anything wrong, they are even proud of me. My resentment is my right. Why don't they leave me alone?
2007-07-22 02:13:15 · 17 answers · asked by Tania 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
you made a mistake and your parents forgave you even though they punished you, right?
Well, if your parents can forgive you for making a mistake they why can't you forgive them for doing what felt was right?
2007-07-22 02:32:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
You should trust your parents before any friends, they seem like they really want the best as all parents due. You might not see it now but they helped you out. Get over the punishment, and gain back your relationship with your parents, the more they trust you and feel comfortable in your decision making the better chance of them being more laxed with you. If you keep the resentment your more likely to reach out to that bad crowd, and drinking,drugs and doing things to get you in juvy are not worth it. Understand your parents love you, give them a hand with a few chores and when out with friends show how responsible you can be.
2007-07-22 03:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are what they are, but you need to think deeper about what those feelings really are about. I don't know, and I won't pretend to know.
What I do know, from my own experience, that resentment/anger/blame generally are "cover-up" emotions for what we are really feeling.
If you are resentful of your parents, it may be that you are feeling shame about your past (you did say you regretted whatever you did). You may also be angry that your parents didn't step in early enough to keep from having to have been so harsh.
Further, you may be resentful because you feel like your parents were TOO harsh for the situation.
You may also be resenting your parents for seemingly going back to the way things were prior to the bad situation, rather than making some active changes.
In any event, you need to work out the issue with your parents. Maybe bring in a clergyman, a professional therapist or even a close family friend to help you and your parents work out your differences. It means having to open up and talk honestly and forthrightly, but in the end, the relationship will become healthier.
2007-07-22 02:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by KatJones37 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you have to ask this question, then you probably know that your behavior is not ok. Just because you regret doing something bad, and apologize, doesn't mean you should not be punished for things you did. Actions have consequences. Becoming an adult means you take responsibility for your actions and accept the consequences of your actions. If your parents were not loving parents, you would still be making mistakes with that same bad crowd with your quality of life headed for the toilet, fast. You need to trust your parents to do what is in your best interests, since you so obviously lack the wisdom to make those decisions yet. Be a resentful little snit if you want to be, but if your life ever amounts to anything, you will have your parents to thank. You have no right to resent anything...you messed up. Now, suck it up and act like you learned something.
2007-07-22 02:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
You did something wrong and your parents punished you for it, like good parents should. Your behavior was not tolerated and they showed you that. You HAVE to respect your parents they been on this earth longer then you they have lived their life and they know what you should and should not be doing. They are doing what is best for you. Do you really want them to not care about what is going on in your life? I hope not because it would be a sad day when I wake up and i find out that my parents didn't give a dame about what happened to me and what I was doing. It doesn't matter how long ago you made your mistake you learned from it now you have to EARN your parents respect and trust that you won't do it again. Deal with it They love you and care about your safety be great full there that parents out there that don't give a sh*t about their kids.
2007-07-22 03:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by Browneyed Beauty 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
sure, it is your suited to sense resentment, yet why do you resent your mum and dad? you are the only that made the blunders a year in the past... and in the event that they have been dissatisfied with you, properly, YOU deserved it! You stated that your mum and dad are pleased with you, so i'm assuming you have made some vast differences on your life and are engaged on doing the appropriate issues. You on no account stated why you felt your mum and dad have been somewhat harsh, or what they did. Perahps you need to indicate which you're nevertheless having a no longer undemanding time because of the fact of those feeligs? perhaps you are able to desire to "sparkling the air" collectively with your mum and dad approximately their punishments? uncertain... do merely what's sweet for you. P.s. Your mum and dad won't go away you on my own because of the fact they love you, i anticipate?? Be happy they do....
2016-10-09 05:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They were only trying to guide ;you in the proper way, and it must have worked, because you are much better and you have earned back some trust. You have to mature and be thankful that your parents got harsh with you and see that because they love you is why they were harsh in the first place. They only want what is best for you, be thankful that they care enough to get involved.
2007-07-22 03:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by WVPV07 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They love you and want you to realize that you can't hold a grudge forever. Maybe you need to speak to a therapist to talk about your feelings and why you feel the need to still be mad at them for being loving caring parents that helped you out of a bad situation.
2007-07-22 03:54:04 · answer #8 · answered by Rae T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you were the one that messed up, your parents mayhave been harsh i don't know to what extent, but have you considered that what they did have made you into the person they are proud of today.They have set you on the right track they did not for sake you when you made your mistake, they are the one still providing for you, they obiviously forgave your mistake beause you are still with them. You think they may have been harsh, but isn't time for you to forgive them.They had your best interest at heart and you'll only have one mom and dad so please forgive.
2007-07-22 06:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by uwigrad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen this is really f*cked up u said ur parents are trying to earn ur trust and respect man i made a big mistake once too my parents lost all trust in me and i spent a few years eanring it back u should do the same but in your case it'll only take a few minutes since they want to give u their trust back but u wont take thats a stupid choice so think before u act
2007-07-22 06:30:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
they care for you and want your best and yes your resentment is right but only for a certain amount of time. Hopefully you will forgive and they will apologize so that you won't have regrets later in life and you and your family will be happy.
2007-07-22 13:05:42 · answer #11 · answered by JFK fan--(Hug Brigade) 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋