Everyone is telling me what I did wrong. How do I make it right. I cannot return the items because they have been used already. Macy's have a strict return policy.
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2007-07-22 02:05:52 · 8 answers · asked by 2fine4u 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
give him back the credit cards until you can control your spending.
there has to be some of it you can return.
2007-07-22 02:09:23 · answer #1 · answered by The French Connection 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, honey you blew it, but we all make mistakes. He is too mad to discuss it right now, so you need to take action on your own. Of the things you purchased, decide which ONE you can't live without. Clean everything else and find a way to sell it. Have a yard sale or advertise the items in the paper. You won't get anywhere near what you paid for them but at this point just the token gesture should be soothing. Give the money to your husband and tell him how you got it, along with a written apology. Tell him you know you are very much in the wrong and you sold most of the merchandise to help pay the bill. Don't ask for the cards and the check book back because you shouldn't have them if you have no more self-control than that. Do you need some counseling? If so, tell him that and find a suitable therapist. If you feel you can control it on your own, do so immediately.
2007-07-22 09:21:38 · answer #2 · answered by leslie b 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you know what you did was wrong. If you can't take the items back, then you need to sell them. Have a yard sell, sell them on eBay, put an ad in the paper to sell the items. That way you can make some money to pay for the credit card bill. I'm sure your husband will calm down. Then you can tell him what you intend to do to make up for your mistake. No, it won't make up for the distrust. You have to earn that. Begin by giving him the credit cards and only asking him for them when you need it for something important and tell him what you intend to use it for. Don't hide anything from him. Be honest if you want him to trust you again. Just curious: Why don't you have your own credit card, debit card, etc.? My husband and I have separate checking accounts but if one of us needs extra money, we just ask for it. We trust each other so we don't even ask what the money is for.
God Bless.
2007-07-22 09:23:30 · answer #3 · answered by sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to let your husband know you know you messed up and, you can't take the stuff back but, you will never do it again. Maybe he is right you spent all the money on yourself and not the baby or him. You might like pretty things but, you don't have to go over board. Next time you want to shop ask him to go with you so you don't over buy. Better yet so him you can shop and only buy a couple of things and not spend so much money. You are going to have to earn his trust back. Maybe you can afford it but, maybe he is thinking of the future. You can sit down and talk about maybe him allowing you some much money a month to spend and if you really see something you want and it is out of your monthly allowance save for it....
2007-07-22 09:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should allow him to be in handle all of the money issues until you are in control of your spending problem. I personally think you are wanting the easy way out, someone to give you a reason for what you did and justify it. You're probably not going to find a single person who's going to back you up on this.
2007-07-22 09:31:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are spending alot of money behind your husbands back!
Tell your husband the truth. Don't hide money issues in a marriage. (my ex husband did that to me) It only makes things worse..Tell him what is going on. He will get mad and say things as long as that's all he does. You really need to get out of this debt. I suggest don't buy anything unless you need it--like food. Credit card debt is the worst thing you can have. It took me almost 9 yrs to get my credit back in shape after my ex husband ruined it..Don't use credit cards anymore. Use only for emergencies!
My new husband and I do not have credit cards. We pay for everything using our check card. We HAVE NO DEBT that way..
2007-07-22 09:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by sexxy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have the money to repay him and offered it, he is being stubborn.
i'm sure that in time, things will work out.
all the best.
2007-07-22 09:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay him back with your own money....even if he says no do it anyway..... you work dont you? If you don't what balls you have .....lol
2007-07-22 09:17:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋