my baby used to sleep, now she screams at night...all the time. anyone know why???

Question

my daughter was starting to sleep through the night at about 5 months.. slowly she began waking more and more often screaming as if in pain, however, she stoped the moment i picked her up, and started again as soon as I set her back in her crib.it is not from teething because that was 6 months ago and she is still doing it! she just got her first teeth last week, and tylenol does not seem to help.so i don't see that as cause. she has been checked for ear infection...none found. we have tried letting her cry it out....she goes for 90 minutes and then sleeps just from exhaustion.I realy don't know what to do!
I have searched night terrors and it does not seem to be it either! I can't keep sleeping like this, and I feel so bad for her!
the cry sounds like a cry of pain, but all i have to do is hold her and she stops, which does not seem like pain, she would keep crying if she were in pain, right? if you have any idea at all, let me know. if you give me a name, i will google it

THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON FOR 6 MONTHS STRAIGHT!!! I HAVE NEVER HEARD OF IT TAKING 6 MONTHS TO CUT A TOOTH!!!!

I REFUSE TO BELIEVE ITS FROM TEETHING!!! SHE HAS SEEN THE DOCTOR...THEY SAID IT'S THAT SHE'S SPOILED, HOWEVER, I HAVE SPENT A MONTH LETTING HER CRY HERSELF BACK TO SLEEP SEVERAL TIMES A NIGHT, SO I DON'T BELIEVE THIS EITHER!!!!I AM NOT GOING TO KEEP LETTING HER CRY, CAUSE SHE'S CRYING MORE THAN SLEEPING WHEN I DO. IF I HOLD HER ALL NIGHT, SHE WILL ONLY WAKE FOR A FEW MINUTES AND GO BACK TO SLEEP, BUT MY NECK IS KILLING ME AND I AM TIRED OF NOT SLEEPING IN BED WITH MY HUSBAND.
MY OLDEST SHARED A BED WITH US WHEN SHE WAS A BABY AND WE COULDN'T GET HER OUT OF IT TILL SHE WAS 3. NOW WE HAVE 4 KIDS, IF SHE MOVES TO OUR BED, THERES NOWHERE LEFT IN THE HOUSE FOR "LOVIN" SO MY HUSBAND WON'T ALLOW IT.

i always use caps when i add details so people will notice i have added details
don't own a rocker
and the other places in the house is the bathroom. we have 4 kids! 2 sleep in the living room because its the only place i can get them to sleep without waking the baby and 2 sleep in bedrooms, then there is my room...only others in the house are joined to the living room. wich granted the bathroom would be ok for a short time, were talking 2 years or better to get her out of our bed.
we realy need a bigger place, but our family grew fast, and our finances have not, i'm one of those people that can't bring herself to send my children to daycare to get a job, there is no one that i trust to take care of them that are willing, so for now my husband is the only one bringin in the dough.
who knows, maybe shes just protesting the tight spaces with lots of people
i have 3 kids under four, and for now a 2 br. apt is all we can afford
i realy don't know whats wrong with her, i just don't

i did try getting further away slowly but even being right beside her crib, if im not touching her she screams. and i usualy check on her and let her know im there but wont take her out about every 5-10 minutes and have done this 4 a month
i may be doing it wrong, im just so frazzled and have no idea what to do differently
last night i tried letting her sleep with the 2 in the living room and she still woke up screaming, but being able to lay next to her on the floor when she did made it easiest to get her back to sleep, and she slept longer between crying. but my body is screaming at me for sleeping on the floor next to her.:) it just seems there is NO way to please everyone in this.

Answer 1

Well I'm confused when you say it's not teething because that was 6 months ago, but then you go on to say she just got her first teeth last week. Regardless, I'm still inclined to believe it is teething, because the discomfort of teething & toothaches is increased when lying down. Have you tried letting her sleep in a bouncy chair or swing?

UPDATE: Okay... now I understand; it's not the TEETHING that's been going on for 6 months, but the crying. Sorry for the misunderstanding. That being said, I'm sorry to say that I don't think I can offer any insights or advice that wouldn't insult your intelligence. My 10-month old son co-sleeps with us, so I can understand the issue with lack of intimacy.

Answer 2

could it be wind? My four month old thrashes in bed and sumtimes cries....when I pick her up and hold her, she settles. I rub her back and usually she produces wind. Perhaps your child has stuck wind?
I know your child is older and probably can bring wind up herself sumtimes they can get stuck??
Give ur child tummy time during the day I have found that this helps my daughter bring them up and also tummy time in the bath (hold her head out of the water if necessary)
I have also found if I get a sheet or quilt and place my daughter face down on my chest and "tuck" us in to the lounge (so she wont fall of me or into the side of the lounge) she settles and both her and I sleep well. This may help you if you are tired.
She isn't still hungry is she? Perhaps try giving her a little more milk when she first wakes up!?
Good Luck!! I hope she gets better soon!!

Answer 3

wow my dear, you started off all nice and then as people answered your questions you started yelling in caps...
calm down!!!! Here's a cup of coffee you poor thing!
:):)
with BOTH my kids they did the same thing. her cutting her first tooth may play a big role, as your habit of letting her cry it out. do you go in and check on her ever 5 minutes?
and how often do you put her down?

What you need to do is break her of her clinginess of you, thats all this is.
when you first sit her down in the crib, sit in a rocking chair close to the crib and tell her go to sleep, its ok. after about 5 minutes or so when she calms down a bit move the chair farther away from the crib, she will get upset but she'll calm down. and basically you keep doing that until you are able to leave the room. she's just clingy and attached to you. which yes the crying and lack of sleep may be driving you to a looney bin, but it does get better!
If you do this a couple of days in a row she will realize that you are notleaving her and she will chill.
just try it.
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OK, UNDERSTAND THE CAPS THING, ILL DO THE SAME. IM IN THE SAME SITUATION RIGHT NOW WITH BEING IN HOME WITH TWO KIDS AND UNDER 3 AND NOT BEING ABLE TO PUT THEM IN DAYCARE NOR WORK. AND AM STUCK HERE ALL THE TIME. I IMAGINE, SHE'S PROBABLY JUST FUSSING TO GET YOUR ATTENTION. I HOPE TAT YOU MANAGE TO GET SOME YOU TIME BECAUSE ICAN TOTALLY IMAGINE HOW WORN OUT YOU ARE.
BIG HUGS TO YOU.
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hmmm, I'd take her to the dr's then just to be safe and make sure there isn't anything underlying that may be causing this, who knows she just may be a colicky baby. My son is and there are days when i feel like I going to lose my mind and they told me its one of those things that i have to be patient about and wait until he grows out of it.

Answer 4

Maybe your baby is teething. Often times this is quite painful for babies, and they don't sleep because of it. I would check with the doctor.

Answer 5

co-sleeping.

You can have 'lovin' in other places besides the bed you know (or he should know).