My wife left me after we had a fight. couple days ago I visited her in sisters house I try to apologize and beg her to come back she refused and said she wants to divorce. I want to save our marriage Please help tell me what to do.
2007-07-22 00:34:17 · 19 answers · asked by Bilaal K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'll assume this is Wife No. 2. Miss High Maintenence.
As long as you have equal share in time with the boys, I don't see this as a great loss to you.
You simply cannot afford this woman.
If it is Wife No. 1, and she is gone because she is hurt, and because she can't compete with Wife No.2's demanding ways, then you need to apologize.
Here is a woman who has loved you through all her trials and your indignities. I doubt seriously she is interested in living in the house with Wife No. 2. (She's your wife, anyway, and even you don't like her, Miss Number 2.)
Why not leave whomever at her sisters, and whomever at the house and get yourself a little apartment?
Man, what ever made you want two wives?
Wow.
2007-07-22 03:36:16 · answer #1 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Must have been some fight. Begging is not a good thing.
I would give it a couple of days, call and ask if the two of you could meet in a open mutual place. Let her talk and talk, you Don't interrupt. Then repeat what she said,showing you were listening and wanting to make sure you understand what was said, you are acknowledging her, then respond to it. Don't agree with everything(we hate that) Be honest in your answers and with how you feel. have solutions and ask if she has some solutions. open communication with one another is the only thing that can fix something broken. Don't use words like you never or you always. focus on the issue and not on attacking each other, dont retaliate, be gracious with your speech
2007-07-22 01:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Must have been pretty huge fight, or it was just the proverbial straw that broke the camels back. If you are serious about wanting to save the marriage offfer/arrange councelling start examining yourself and figure out how you got to the point you are at right now and what you can do to change in a positive way.
Ask her! make sure you ask her what the problem is and then go from there really.
2007-07-22 00:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by Pickle123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the world did you do? Maybe she has good reason to pursue a divorce. But if you want to save your marriage you have to do more than buy her some nice gifts. She needs to be able to vent to you and get her feelings heard. Most men don't understand that women have a need to express themselves, and you may not understand her, just go with it. Have a sit down, and don't try to agree/disagree. Just say nothing but "I understand. You have a right to feel that way." If you disagree, say that anyway. Don't interrupt, don't stop her to express your own feelings. You can tell her what you think another time. She probably doesn't exactly expect you to solve anything, she just wants you to "get it". Men don't always understand that about a woman. Good luck.
2007-07-22 01:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by I39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage can only be saved if both of you want to work on it. Talk to your wife and tell her that you love her and that you are truly sorry and that you do not want your marriage to end. Suggest going to see a marriage counselor to try and work on the issues that you guys are having. But, if she refuses to go and still wants to divorce you, than there is nothing that you really can do except to let her go.
2007-07-22 00:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by bluemysti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATION you need to be able to talk to each other if she really loves you she would rather work things out than break up she may need time but you two need to learn how to tell each other what you feel BEFORE it becomes this big of a problem and if one of you says something that makes the other mad you need to calm down and try to understand why the person feels that way but communication is the key then you two need to come to some sort of compromise on things you disagree about best of luck
2007-07-22 01:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by acetolyne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To save your marriage you both have to be willing to save it. You can suggest to her that you two should seek out a marriage counselor, but she may not want to go. Its only been a couple days so give it a few more. She might come around then, and be willing to listen. Right now she is still to upset to talk with.
2007-07-22 00:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by Brian F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what the fight was about and how nasty it got? Has it been going on for a long time? Has she had enough? It seems unusual that she would leave after one fight and not come back.
Both of you have to really love each other to save it. I hope its not too late for you.
Good luck
2007-07-22 00:38:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you get your wife hurt during the fight:( In that case, she can file a divorce:( I am not sure what you have done to the marriage:(
2007-07-22 00:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by kyochan19792002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can't save your marriage. The only thing YOU can do is, ask her why...change, and make a commitment to her that you will. Only time will tell. If she's dead set on divorce then let her go, nothing you can do.
2007-07-22 00:41:59 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋