... so sensitive about their sexuality? I mean, if someone is really being cruel and bashing, that's one thing. But it seems like we all go on the defensive when any straight person makes a gay joke.
Usually these jokes are either an effort to show acceptance by saying, "Hey, I treat you like I would any of my straight buddies." Or they are attempting to make themselves feel more comfortable in an awkward situation by lightening the mood. So what if they're a little uncomfortable? At least they're trying to be supportive... .... ....
2007-07-22 00:08:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It's society as a whole; no one person has ever made me feel bad for who I am. I don't want the generalized negative connotations of homosexuality associated with me; plain and simple. I don't want to be accused to being an AIDS-ridden loser. I don't want to be "the gay guy". I don't want people talking about me and saying "He's gay"...and then have the other person just presume stereotypes without even knowing me. On the other hand, I'm cool with gay jokes.
2007-07-22 00:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can see your point of view here. But the problem is that we aren't anywhere near equals in society. So a lot of the jokes aren't funny they are kind of mean or really stereotyping us badly. To be honest there are gay jokes I laugh at and I don't care. Sometimes you can't take yourself 100% serious and I've had straight guys say, "oh I'm sorry..." and I've said, "it's not a big deal!" and then we are friends. Like I said I can see both sides of this and I think humor helps with uncomfortable situations, as it helps me around a group of straight men, but mean humor really hits hard... :)
2007-07-22 03:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by Jyse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm straight, but have lesbian friends, so I can't speak from experience. But I personally don't find ethnic "jokes" funny. If you substitute "Jewish," "Catholic," or any nationality, as well as person with a physical or mental challenge, I think you'll see this more clearly. A joke, to be perceived as funny, must be based on truth, or truth as the hearers and speakers see it. The Word has always been more powerful than sticks and stones and I believe this type of "joke" shows hatred or intolerance, unconscious or not, on the part of the joke teller.
2007-07-22 02:22:49 · answer #3 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all your friend is mostly wrong. Secondly, the bisexual kid calling you gay shouldn't really be much of an issue if you are gay. Thirdly, you can be attracted to anyone, gay/straight/bisexual/transgendered etc. and most of the time attraction is down to preference in terms of personality/looks but some people may not be attracted to others based on their sexuality, it isn't uncommon for lesbian women to be attracted to straight women, nor is it uncommon for gay men to not be attracted to bisexual men for example. So basically, it is down to the person but not ALL gay guys only go for gay guys.
2016-05-20 17:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it really so hard to believe though? MANY GLBT people have encountered some form of real discrimination in their lifetimes, I know I have. Sometimes it is extremely harsh, or done by someone close to you. That really leaves a mark on how you feel others may react to you. I don't know about gay guys in specific, but that's what I would consider for the entire GLBT "community".
I agree that sometimes people are a little over-sensitive, but in this case.. It can't hurt to be cautious.
2007-07-22 00:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by Mystery Lady H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the situation,in some cases the person joking is bashing with a joke and other times they are as you said....
Some gay men are over sensitive about it and others are not...I usually come back with answers like poking them in they're sweet butt and that usually shuts them up ( probably turns them on ..hehehe)
2007-07-22 00:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well a person with no sense of humor shall make a mountain out of a mole-hill anyways be him/her gay or straight.
A friend who is with us even after knowing that we are gay in itself shows tht he/she respects us for what we are and a little comment made in good fun shudnt make us draw daggers at them.
As far as going on the defensive is concerned its true too, some of us sense a rat in everything and anything. such attitude is no good. for god's sake amongst friends at least sexuality shudn't be an issue, and if it is, there is a lot of growing up needed.
2007-07-22 00:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by RAKSHAS 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya...I think we all have the been on the defense for so long, that many people can't learn to turn it off....there are plenty of honestly good str8 people out there that want nothing more than to be your friend. I love my str8 guy friends, they rock....they make gay jokes, but it's just that...a joke....I have a good sense of humor, and as long as it's funny and not meant to be hurtful...I'll laugh
2007-07-22 02:05:30 · answer #8 · answered by Oberon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have straight friends who joke about homosexuality, and I joke about heterosexuality. It is all in fun. I know my friends don't mean any offense sometimes, I clarify if something comes across as a misunderstanding. The point is, we never let our sexualities come in the way of our friendships.
2007-07-22 00:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by Gaymes Last Orchestra 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the gay joke. I had a dude shout out yesterday "Hey if you wash my buddy's truck he'll wash your balls, he's gay" and his friend was like "I wouldn't wash his balls". I found it amusing, young people being young and stupid. It wasn't offensive, just stupid.
But if someone makes a joke that puts down gay people in front of me then they deserve a verbal smack down too, I will not tolerate disrespect.
There's a difference between stupid and disrespect.
2007-07-22 03:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by Luis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋