Want to take revenge. This girl is a homewrecker!?

Question

All got all her info needed like Address, SS#, DL#, Phone#, What type of car. Need HELP! Want to runin her in anyway possible. She works for the Federal Government too.

Answer 1

Sorry for your loss but if you take this route, you are headed for a prison cell.

1.It is illegal to possess and use another persons social security number.

2. Stalking and harassment is now a felony in every state. No matter what she did, it is illegal for you take this type of action against her.

3.Setting out to harm another by damaging their livelihood (employment or career) is a felony in every state and if she is a federal employee, it is a federal offense.

The fact is, vengeance is a great way to land you in much more hot water that you can imagine. No jury will care if she ran off with your fella, if you take these tactics, you will go to jail. Despite how you may feel, you don't have the right to destroy her life.

And....if she is a home wrecker, I am sorry to say but it takes two to tango. This woman had no responsibility to have care or concern for you. But your husband/boyfriend did. Stop blaming her.

Let it go, move on, and avoid losing everything that you have over something that will not get you what you want and may very well land you in prison.

best wishes

Answer 2

If by federal government you mean military, then just report it to her command, they might not do much but it won't look good for her and she will be counceled. If you have hard proof of the cheating like a voice recording, printed emails or pictures then you can actually persue legal action.
I would say don't be stupid and try to make messes if you have no hard proof, it is your husband that stepped out and he is the one you should be comming down on. You two were married it was his job to resist temptation.

Answer 3

Stop and think. So many women blame the other woman instead of the man that was supposed to be committed to the relationship. Why are you focusing on her? Why not focus and spend your energy on Y(OU. Work on improving yourself and getting over the hurt so that you can go on. You could end up with legal problems if you continue this way of thinking and you won't feel better about yourself.

Answer 4

And what about hubby/bf?
It takes two you know. Did it ever occur to you, that she may not know about you? Did it ever occur to you, that your man fed her a load of sh!t to get into her pants?
She may be an innocent by stander in all this. Maybe you should take a look at yourself and your relationship-concentrate on changing that and she won't be a factor in the equation anymore.
Besides, revenge = hate. And its sad that you have so much hate within you. Revenge does NOT = forgiveness, for her, for you, for him within the eyes of God.
And quite honestly, it makes you worse (pathetic, sad, evil, hateful) than a homewrecker.

Answer 5

Firstly, the government won't care, especially if there are kids involved. The more people and kids they can "help support" the better they like. The witch may even get a promotion. Second, ALL those items can be used by your divorce attorney when he hangs your soon to be ex, out to dry & gets you awarded everything

Answer 6

Let it go! Don't do anything. You could get into serous trouble here.

Your mad and hurt but the best revenge is letting them have each other. Cheaters don't change. One or other will do the same thing to each other.

You should get on with your life and find happiness. You might think it is impossible now but give it time.

Good Luck

Answer 7

Vengeance may comfort you but your type of vengeance will land you in a federal penitentiary.

Sure, there is a lot of thing you can do to make her miserable but she is not the only one to blame. She may have pursued your hubby and he let her catch him.

Move on...it happened and in the divorce, "rape" him as much as you can. Carry your vengeance on him, not her.

How you acquired such personal information about her is a form of stalking and that will be another serious charge you will face.

Step back, try regain yourself and do what's right to protect yourself. You ruin her life and you ruin yours because your in prison....now that's just what will happen.

Answer 8

Well, you've got all the information. What are you going to do with it?

Don't put yourself in a position where he has to defend her from you.

When you talk to him say things like, "I moved the sofa finally. When you come home you're gonna really like it." or "Junior got an award the other day. He's dying to show it to you when you come home." Just assume he's coming home.

Oh, it's a dream living with the other girl. No kids, peace and quiet....

So, inform him you've decided to petition for shared parenting. Say, two weeks onm two weeks off (you pick a time frame). It's hard to let the kids go, but you need the rest and she needs to play Suzie homemaker a bit. Her man has 4 kids, now she has 4 kids. Fun,fun, fun....

Get your calendar and make note of all their events and activities. Send a copy with them to their Dad's. Tell the kids you'll see them in two weeks, bye-bye....

No every other weekend, optional and unenforceable for your kids.

They have a right to be parented by their father and mother equally. The standard program gives him the Option to see the kids. It is not enforceable. And it leaves Mom on duty 24/7 which is nigh onto impossible to do. Absolutely exhausting.

So, he can either parent at home with you, or he can parent on his own with Miss Federal Government, who never saw this coming. But he Is Going to Parent.

Now, after a bit, when he comes a-bangin' on your door, professing the errors of his ways, and begging for forgiveness....what do you want to do?

If you want him back you'll keep negative conversation nil from here on out.

When a conversation takes a turn for the worse, remove your presence, "Oh, I do remember that. Excuse me, I left stuff on the stove." and walk away. Do Not Discuss Negatives.

IF you get back together you can e-mail feelings and responses that lead to some healing. But never verbally discuss this.

Give her What For, dear.

Toss all those frumpy tee shirts and jogging pants. Find the things that compliment your figure and your coloring. Wear your makeup. Find a comfy pair of low heels and make sure you're wearing them when he comes around.

Let him know the kids would like a family dinner and invite him one night. Dress nicely, wear your makeup, avoid Negative, speak Positives, and finish the night with how happy the kids are going to be when he comes home. Then show him the door and say, "Good night."

Be sweetness and light, the woman he fell in love with, married and had four georgeous children with.

Establish a routine of dinner, baths and bed/quiet time. Try to have the house quiet by 8:30. Take a nice bath, read a bit, go to bed early.

Buy a set of weights at Wal Mart, 3lb, 5lb, whatever is comfortable and do reps. It takes the stress out of the shoulders and back before you go to bed.

Eat nutritious meals and incorporate a multi-vitamin into your daily routine. Get 8 hours sleep.

You've got a break. He's occupied. Focus on you as best you can. Take that walk around the block that never seemed to happen before. Breathe. Rest.

And decide now how you're going to handle the knocking on the door. The ball is in your court.

Make sure you go to the Family court offices and file for your child support. You do not need to be divorced or officially separated. You do not need a lawyer. Simply fill out the paperwork, turn it in, ask for a copy and go to your court date. You can also ask for half of the daycare bill if you have kids in daycare. CS is retroactive to the day you file, so do that on Monday.

You can play her without crossing lines with DL #'s or SS#'s. If you play a good hand of poker, you may even win your man back.

Soooo, rest, eat right, Let all Negatives go, focus on your wonderful life and your wonderful kids and the georgeous day it is, and how nice the house looks when it's cleaned. Find all the joy.

Pity him for the errors of his ways and treat him with common courtesy. Always let him know how wonderful it will be "when he comes home."

Until then whomp on the b*tch. Nicely.

God bless you and yours, dear.

Answer 9

IMAGINE Can you feel you getting slapped, beat up, raped, may be even worse etc cause in jail that might happen to you. Move up and on. You are hurt you are angry all understandable but dont seek revenge- things will just fall into place- you'll regret it .....

Answer 10

Calm down. Think. It's him that was married to you and took an oath or it was him who promised to love you not her. Don't be one of those blame the woman chicks. Leave the dude alone and that will probablly be the worst thing you can do. They are not worth it.