I keep thinking that if I'm happy, then life or fate is going to come along and smack me down.
I think that I'm not allowed to be happy or successful without dire consequences.
Is this weird?
2007-07-21 20:55:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
It seems to me that 1) you think you don't deserve happiness, and 2) you may be making setbacks even bigger than what they are. Regarding #1, you may be doing that female thing that so many of us do: belittling our achievements and thinking that we don't deserve success. Fate does not give you success - you do that yourself. See how men are at work: they say, "I did this" more than "We did this." Women usually do the opposite. Regarding #2, everyone goes through ups and downs but when you reach a down just pull yourself up by your bra straps, stick your chin out and fight back. You succeeded the first time, you WILL do it again. My thought is, if everything were nice and beautiful, how would we learn to truly appreciate the good times? Life would be kinda boring, no?
2007-07-22 07:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by domrepgrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not unusual.
Obviously not something you would willingly choose for yourself. But it is likely a learned behavior.
You must get to the root of your beliefs that cause this outcome.
It comes down to self-worth.
The humility aspect of it is good. So be careful not to become arrogant in your search for something better.
It happens easier than you might think.
The universe is like a big math equation which gives you difinitive effect for particular cause. What you put out will bring predictable events. Most of us are not enlightened to have awareness of all of our subconcious thoughts and drives. And so we tend to fail to see what we are truely doing or why.
2007-07-21 21:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone has placed into your head that you are not worthy of being happy. This is not true you have to belive that ypu deserve to be happy and because you desreve it there is no consequences the happiness is a result of your hard work.
2007-07-21 23:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by Lou 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is full of happiness and sadness but when sadness come do think of positive thing it will make u happy.
Well life is short it better to have good memory and happy felling
2007-07-21 21:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by sweet charm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't 'afraid to be happy'. You just don't trust your idiot boyfriend.
2007-07-21 21:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
HYPNOSIS CAN HELP YOU UNEARTH WHERE THIS FEAR COMES FOR.
2007-07-21 23:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋