I can't believe it?

Question

Here is my problem today me my husband and son went to a baptism party! and he did not help me out with my son at all he just got there and went straight to his friends.... anyways so i just let him have his time then out of nowhere i look outside and i see him taking pictures with his friend and a girl right next to him puting her arm around him... then after that another girl and i totally got freaking mad and while he was doing this i walked straight up to where he was and gave him a really bad look. After he was done i called him to the side and and i told him so this is what you do at parties when i am not around? and he told me i was overreacting becuase they were old friends that he had not seen since forever. But i was so freaking mad that i told him fine i won't tell you anything anymore but next time when i see a old guy friend i am going to do the same crap.my question is was i overreacting or did i deserve to put him in his place?

also i am 24 weeks pregnant could it have been my hormones? or why did i get so mad?

also he is very jelaous if i was the one that did this he would be dying of anger!!!

Answer 1

I wonder if you are not really more upset that he wasn't showing you and your son off? I would have felt more disappointed in not getting help with your son. Where were your friends? You need some of your own to be around. Don't sweat it, everyone knows you are hormonal, You are supposed to be at this point. I would talk to him and tell him "When you do (This).. I feel...(this way)

Answer 2

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change = yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.

Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Answer 3

I think its a little of all the above. I have boundaries with other men and more so when my husband is around. Just out of respect for us both. I would be mad that he did not help with my son to start with but wow then the pictures and other girls at your sons baptism ? I don't understand why they were Doing there and you did not even know who they were. I think you two having another child might be part of your husband acting out sort. I think you may have been overreacting some but still I do understand and may have reacted the same.

Answer 4

If you want it straight and simple, the answer is: yes, you r overreacting. it could well be hormones, or any other reason, but fact is you are overreacting. cool off. what exactly has been so offensive that you need to put him in 'his place'? why the counter threat? you may needlessly jeopardize an otherwise perfectly good relationship. after all, presumably there has been no earlier incident? so why make such a big deal of what may have just the simple explanation tour husband offered. cool it, dear!

Answer 5

Your not going to believe me and you are not going to like what i say .Your husband is cheating on you,just the little bit you said, it's obvious that he is and this is why i know he is,1)he walk away from you and went right to his girlfriend. 2) he took her out side where you couldn't see. 3) he let a woman put her arm around him. 4) when you came out side and he seen how mad you were why didn't he introduce you to the girl . 5) when a husband is jealous for no reason it means he he afraid you are doing the same thing as he is. If you don't take any of this serious you will be sorry later on when he brakes your heart.

Answer 6

Be happy that his arm was not around them, at least you didn't mention that it was. Let him know how the whole day made you feel, don't excuse your feelings with your pregnancy. How would you feel about it if you were not pg? Young husbands can be so inconsiderate when old friends are around. Don't let him off the hook for this or any other bad behavior. Stand up for yourself and have your say. Next time, no dirty look; pull him aside with a smile on your face and have your say.

Answer 7

I think that the only chaos that exists is human nature. That is because we cause so much trouble with our lies. If he is out partying and you are out home with the kid and he has girls hanging all over him then I say you weren't over reacting because you didn't know those girls. Was he lying? Im not sure but if he was then he has been doing alot of partying without you. You didn't over react because you were at church with your child and he was very little part of that. He could have been honest but maybe he should be more family oriented.

Answer 8

I hope its your hormones because I don't see a problem with a husband taking pictures with friends at a baptism with many people around.

Did you deserve to put him in his place? Hardly.
He deserves an apology from you. For the sake of your pregnancy, you need to calm down.

Answer 9

You're overreacting unless you have reason to believe he is cheating on you with this woman. And don't blame your behavior on hormones, you are an adult, act like it. Blaming your hormones is no better than letting a guy off for bad behavior by saying "boys will be boys."

Answer 10

Prego hormones took over here.... Look, he posed for a couple of pics.... Would have been different if you caught him actually DOING something with another woman. He could have been more help with your son, (I am assuming he is the Dad) but other than that, you WAY OVER REACTED.