Is it normal for new moms not to love their baby right away? My friend had a daughter she said she only wanted all boys. She called her mom and told her mom to come get her baby because she didnt want it because it was a girl.
2007-07-21 19:18:16 · 23 answers · asked by ck_crumb 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
postpardum depression
2007-07-21 21:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As one knows certain people suffer from the PN issue,however, some studies reveal that a hormone is released that actualy distances the mother from the child. This occures normaly when a child is still born or abnormal. If the mother was expecting a son and gave birth to a daughter then this would happen. Give her time and see what happens. Remember that mothers who have had children for the first time have one hell of a life change and need support like never befor. Keep an eye on her and help her with the day to day choares of running the house. Her partner [if she has one] should make sure he is available at all times for her. This guy must take over most of the duties at home and better make sure his wife/girl feels like a million bucks. At the same time he must include baby and her in as many activities as he can. Good luck my friend
2007-07-21 19:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by Charles Athole M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some woman just simply don't bond with every baby. I know it is hard for the rest of us to believe but i have seen story after story turned into movies on tv about similar things. Woman go through postpartum depression which is just one cause but some woman have issues with a certain sex while growing up and have a hard time bonding with that sex as an adult. How is she with her mom and other woman in the family? Is there a family history of wanting one sex and not the other? I know my grandpa didn't want a son and treated my uncle like crap and my uncle grew up having a hard time bonding with both of his sons. As for me I was afraid with my history with males i would have a problem with having boys but luckily i have no problem with it. Your friend needs to seek out councling to find out why she can't accept her daughter before it gets worse but sadly it may come down to her daughter needing to be placed in a more accepting home, it does happen. I remember even seeing an episode of ER a long time ago where a woman got an abortion everytime the ultrasound said possibly a girl because she said girls were nothing but trouble and she would never raise one.
2007-07-21 19:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by momof3boys 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have to ask how old your friend? it is common for a new YOUNG mom to not want her baby. It depends on how your friends child; the age of him/her also. I would say that usually any new mom find themselves in a situation that is overwhelming and can be very scary but will also love that baby to no end when it really counts and her mommy instincts will kick in and better watch out cause she will protect that lil one like there is no tomorrow!!
if she continues with this i would try to get her counseling because this is definitely not a normal reaction not to want or love your child in the long run meaning......this should only last for a few hours, maybe days...if it is weeks and/or months than I would seriously worry!!
God Bless
2007-07-21 19:36:43 · answer #4 · answered by krYpToNitEsMoM 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes with new moms we are so hormonal it takes time to get use to being the caregiver of another human being like a shock to the system
postpartum depression it will take some time to get her hormones in check ask her to talk to her doctor maybe they can get her into somekind of therapy or medication to level her hormones
even somepeople it just takes time to attach themselves to the baby not because they dont want the baby but feel inaddaquate to take care of it but until then make sure that someone is there to watch over her and the baby good luck and god bless you all i hope everything will turn out okay
2007-07-21 19:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How sad for that sweet little baby! It really does sound like your friend may have PPD, and may need some help. In the case that she really does not want to care for her baby for being a girl, she needs to take the responsibility of beginning the procedures of adoption as soon as possible. Or maybe a member of her family can take the baby. Honestly, it does sound more like PPD than anything, and maybe lack of sleep. God bless that little girl.
2007-07-21 19:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by Somaesthesia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a very serious issue!!
Sounds like postpartum depression
She could be in trouble for child abuse.
I can't tell you what to do because I don't totally know the situation.
If the baby is being ignored or not fed and not held, then you need to report it to child services. But, first talk to her family.
2007-07-21 20:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if this is the same friend who was just told that the father of her child is gay i would think it might have more to do with that. it is messed up but I'm sure it is a postpartum depression type thing. i know allot of ppl get really depressed when they had there heart set on one gender and get another. in one way she is grieving the loss of the son she wanted and this screaming little girl is an impostor trying to take his place. she needs to get counseling that is not normal
2007-07-21 19:30:19 · answer #8 · answered by fairy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've heard of this happening, however it wasn't because of the sex of the infant. It was more so due to postpartum depression, (which has nothing to do with the gender)... So I do believe this is more serious than one may imagine...I think this is her crying out for the babies LIFE!!!!, someone needs to go get the child!!!!!NOW
2007-07-21 19:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by Jae' 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
genuinely do no longer trust that, I merely don't get why people might choose to do this to their toddler. My 6 year previous son had his ear peirced interior the summertime after inquiring for months and located it painful to the quantity he burst out crying. He have been given over it without postpone in spite of the undeniable fact that yet did say that he chanced on it sore with the objective to place a tiny toddler via it particularly is merely cruel for my section. i might wait to the new child is sufficiently previous to ask for it themselves and that they may be arranged for the actuality that it particularly isn't any longer soreness loose.
2016-10-09 05:44:56 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For my aunt it was very disappointing to have a boy, and for the rest of this poor kid's life she treated him terribly. Surprise surprise he turned into a bad seed and is now sitting in jail. If your friend is serious, please see to it this child is given to a loving person to raise her. She deserves better than an uncaring 'mother'.
2007-07-21 21:04:49 · answer #11 · answered by MaPetiteHippopotame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋