What are the signs of cheating?

Question

I let him do whatever. He works a side job after work and I know it's true cause I've been there. He never refuses sex and mostly always initiates it. So what are some signs he might be cheating???

Answer 1

He's a jerk.. Leave his ***

Answer 2

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change = yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.

Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.


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Answer 3

erasing the calls on his cell, checking a lot on where you're at when he's not home (make sure the coast is clear for him), acting suddenly different in bed, giving you gifts but not being particularly loving about it (the guilt presents), not being open about finances & keeping you in the dark about exactly how much he makes, hiding the phone bills or paying bills with money orders instead of writing a check, smelling of different perfume and having some lame excuse why.....oh the list goes on & on..... lol

I'm reminded of a show I saw on cheaters years ago. I think it was Oprah. Anyway, they had a couple of private investigators on there & I found it interesting they said they have NEVER (in many years of doing this) had a woman hire them and found out the man was not cheating. (they had, however had men hire them and the woman turned out not to be cheating). So, if you suspect he is I think there's a good chance you're right

Answer 4

Cheater are every smart, and cover their tracks, but if he is cheating sooner or later something will pop up to let you know, like lip stick on his shirt, a phone number in his pocket, calls coming to the house and when you answer they will hang up, staying out late, most men have a greater sex drive than women so he will not refuse sex, it good to him that he can have it with two different women.

Answer 5

When it come, you will know, but in the meantime, trust your husband and love him dearly, so far, he did nothing wrong, why are you looking for the sign of cheating when in fact you have the most sincere man by your side. You have to ask yourself, are you fair to him?

If you keep such mentality of searching for cheating sign, i can guarantee you find no peace in your love, because you lack of trust to your husband, this result in your sensitive of insecure with him.

I suggest you look for the better moment with your husband, building better and lovelier relationship and stop looking for sign of cheating that can change your personality toward him. And in the end he may realise that after all his loves and hard work given to you and family, end up in you suspicion him of cheating, then hell!, he may really go and cheat.

Answer 6

Talking on the phone in odd out of the way don't want to be heard places
changes in grooming, wearing cologne all of a sudden, new clothing, interest in changing weight or hair
showering when he comes in if it is not his normal behavior
but really men can cheat and wives don't know
best to have honest open communication

Answer 7

Why is it that its alway men talked about cheating when women are more professional than men? Catching unneccessaru altittude, complainning, swing moods, lack of sex drive and desire of having sex, keeping a distance etc. What else does a man notice on women?

Answer 8

1. coming home and going straight into the shower or smelling like different shampoo / soap.. ie had a shower before coming home.. or smelling a woman on him..
2. making odd excuses all the time to be gone, hiding his phone or catching him on the computer when he's trying to communicate to her..
3. odd expenses on your bank / credit card statements or the lack thereof.. (i.e. intercepting mail before it comes in..)
4. Scratch marks on his back that you didn't leave..
5. Suddenly wearing new underwear..
6. either doesn't seem interested in sex, or is voracious.. trying new surprising things that haven't been a part of your sex marriage..
7. touching you like he's touching someone else..
8. withdrawing from you emotionally..

not one of these would be a guarantee except smelling the other woman or seeing scratch marks / hickies.. but together, well.. it's time for a talk.

Answer 9

And why don't YOU ever take the first step and initiate sex? He sounds like a hard working man, don't rock the boat unless you are prepared to get wet.

Answer 10

hey well do they stay gone allof the time and do you have the phone ring at allhours and some of the time it is hang calls and do you and you spouse ever have sex any more or all you do is sleep in bed

Answer 11

Do you have any reasons to suspect anything or are you feeling insecure and lonely because he works too much?