My ex girlfriend is starting to make me a little un easy cuz we broke up in dec but in nov we was working on our relationship but it did not work out any way we had sex nov 11,18,19 she comes to me in april to tell me she is preg but she did mess wit her ex around dec 15-21 one time during that period so i have been under alot of strees so ido what i bleave is the right thing and i purchase all the items needed for the babies even knowing about this other guy but my math tells me that im the father he even thinks im the father im black he is white and they have other kids together and i have none he is a good dad so if he thought they was his he wudnt push them to the next man but sometimes she makes me feel like they are mine and other times she strees the fact that they may not be mine is it hormmones that is making her like this or shud i worry that there is a bigger chance that they arnt mine then i know she doesnt remember her lmp but the doc said it was around nov 13or14
2007-07-21 18:04:20 · 5 answers · asked by worried dad 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
just like on Maury there's no way to know for sure except to do a DNA test. Plan to have one done once the baby is born. I would be nervous, too. At the moment you just have to take deep breaths and wait it out. You've learned a lesson here, sex minus condom = baby. I hope the baby is healthy and happy whatever happens.
2007-07-21 18:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough situation.
Right now, you need to try and do what you think is best and put aside the stress. The baby could be yours, it might not be. You won't be able to find out until you can have a paternity test done, which isn't until after the baby is born.
So what do you want this pregnancy to look like? You can be spiteful or hide away until you know for sure, and then possibly regret not being there if it turns out to be your child. Or you can continue to be involved until you have a paternity test done. If it's not your child, you can walk away. You may also want to talk to her about that and make sure that's understood, that you are purchasing the items for the baby and being involved on the assumption that it is your baby. If it isn't, you're not going to continue being involved. You may also want to talk about having the money paid back for at least some of the stuff you did buy, if it's not yours, that's up to you though.
http://www.americanpregnancy.org/prenataltesting/paternitytesting.html
2007-07-22 01:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by Rhiannon 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she may know something you don't but at the same time even if she isn't hiding anything there is a chance it is his. so definitely get the test done after the baby is born. is she black or white or what? if she isn't black you will be able to make an educated guess when the baby is born just by looks but don't discount it either way. tough situation good luck.
2007-07-22 01:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by fairy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a paternity test
2007-07-22 01:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by Lou 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what i would definatley want to get a paternity test. You never know!
2007-07-26 01:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by italimamijcq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋