is it alright to ask about the truth with the affair of my husband and the other woman?

Answer 1

It's a no win situation believe me i know.My husband cheated on me and i wanted to know everything and he told me bits and pieces which made it worse because the little he told me wasn't making any sense. Because he hasn't told me the truth i will never forgive him. Don't think your going to hear the truth from your husband he would rather eat glass then to talk about it.

Answer 2

It is alright to ask, but you may not like the answer.

Most times when men cheat it is because we are stupid. We tend to enjoy the affection or attentions of other women. and sometimes unknowingly fall into a trap that we knew we should have avoided.

The thing is that we kid ourselves saying this will not happen to me, or I won't go that far. By the time it has gotten that far, we have fallen and the damage is done.

There are many reasons why men cheat. Your husband may have a few good ones, but none will make you feel better. they may make you feel worse in fact.

If you are willing to give your marriage a second chance, it will probably be best to do it without knowing. Take a leap of faith and try to make it work.

You will always wonder if he will ever cheat on you again. But faith is what will keep you going. You will wonder why, but it may hurt you every time you think about it.

If you aren't going to make things work, it will still hurt to know the answer. So it may be a mistake to know why he cheated on you.

"Faith is the substance of things not yet seen, the evidence of things hoped for."


Good luck, hope all works out for you and your husband.

Answer 3

Only if you are ready for the truth! Most people don't want to hear the truth. Most of the time is only causes more heartache because the wife feels like I could have done that or why didn't he do that with me? I always tell people "be careful what you ask me because I will tell you the aswer and you just might not be ready for it!"

Answer 4

Some women want to know the details and others do not. If you asked be prepared to hear what is painful. He may say the sex is better but remember it was new, sneaky, no nag sex and that is hard to compete with, he is your husband and has a history with you. Write down what you want to ask him and think about what it will mean when he says certain things, if you really just need reassurance and another apology don't be afraid to ask him for it in a loving way.

Answer 5

When it happened to me, I really wanted to know every little detail and he just wouldn't say. The more he won't talk about it, the madder I got. Then when he finally did open up and spill all the beans, I thought I would be satisfied. But I couldn't stop thinking about what he said and replaying it over and over. I wish I would have gone to marriage counselling with him to talk about all of it instead. It has taken three years to get over all the hurt. Good luck!

Answer 6

If the affair is over, ask yourself if you really want to know the details. Will it help solve anything, or will it just give you something else to chew on and stew over? If you're looking to repair your marriage, you need to focus on moving forward, not looking back.

Answer 7

Of course. When wouldn't asking for the truth be okay? Unfortunately, you aren't likely to hear the truth...

Answer 8

Don't ask for answers that you aren't ready to hear. You may want to know now, but once you get those answers, they will stay with you forever.

You might want to gear your questions to the reasons why it happened. Counseling would be helpful.

Answer 9

It is only natural for you to want to know the truth also it is you right to know, good luck

Answer 10

As the spouse, you need to know what happened. Ask questions, for example, did they use condoms, etc. Its your marriage. Good Luck.