I believe love is a choice.. you CHOOSE who you fall in love with
does anyone else believe this? and what are your other thoughts on love
2007-07-21 17:25:33 · 18 answers · asked by ahhhhhh 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I don't believe that you choose who you fall in love with, and I also believe that love is too abstract to explain. It's like a blind person asking for an explanation of blue.
2007-07-21 17:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.
After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.
Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.
I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.
I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.
If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.
I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.
Love and blessings
Your brother
don
2007-07-22 08:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree. Anyone can love anyone unconditionally, but to dedicate that love to one person is a choice.
EDIT:
After reading the other answers I see that some of you think that one is meant to fall in love with a certain person on this earth. The love you are talking about is not true love. True love is unconditional and accomadates all beings in existance. Choosing is the only challenge. To make the relationship less complicated and painful, one must simply find a partner who is in the best position to be with you.
2007-07-22 00:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by Goku 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is partly Choice, it can not be Protested, because it is fact.
You start the choice by deciding to persue something with an individual, whether or not you stumble upon them, or they stumble upon you, or if you've always had your eye on them, or the other way around. You could always decide to not continue on with them, but the part that is out of your hand is after you choose to continue to talk with them, you may develop a connection with them, something you can't control, and want to talk to them more and more, and it may blossom into a relationship, that could spawn love between the both of you.
2007-07-22 00:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a choice since you ultimate choose the image, qualities that you would like to love. But is it relative. But you have to differentiate the differences between true love false love...True love only occurs when you are mature and know exactly who you are thus avoiding the Romeos and bad relationships....
2007-07-22 00:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by Konfucius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a choice sometimes & sometimes not a choice.
When we chose friends, lovers, or spouses, we chose the traits we want in someone & we begin to love them. This is a concious choice. I met my husband & instantly drawn to him but because I respected him, & loved the way he treated me & others (plus his great body) I chose to allow myself to love him. He is always 1st to me even over myself ^ that is hard to do.
My children were different, the moment the doctor handed each of them to me, it was complete love at first sight. So strong that even my love for myhusband grew stronger,
No choice - that had me at 1st cry.
I answered the question on "love" & not "faling in love".
Falling in love is the immature part of love. It occurs many times & starts early in life. It is usually physical or about being funny or sexy. If you fall in love for looks, the love will die as the looks change with age. Love never ask you to ruin the good parts of yourself. It does not control but guides, it does not take advantage & that includes young physical relationships, love allows you to be a better you with both the receiving & the giving of love.
2007-07-22 00:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is a feeling and it usually develops overtime. you can't choose anything with love. you can choose the person you want to love if you feel they are good for you. love is something that happens naturally. you can meet someone and not love them but if you spend time with them and get to know them then if you think that is who you want to be with, love will develop between the two of you. if you feel you are in love with someone, make sure they love you back because it is hard to have a one-sided love relationship.
2007-07-22 00:41:23 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Starr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Corinthians 13:4-10 (love)
4.Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;
5.does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;
6.does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truthy;
7.bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, indures all things.
8.Love never fails. but whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; weather ther eis knowledge, it will vanish away.
9.For we know in part and we prophesy in part
10.but when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in poart will be done anyway
Love is somthing that you will find, to me it is not a choise, but a privalidge. If you hate your self then you don't have the ability to love others, or allow others to love you.
2007-07-22 00:45:32 · answer #8 · answered by Crizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is caring more for somebody else than you do for yourself. And you cannot choose who holds that sway over you. Sometimes that person might not even deserve such devotion but for a reason beyond our control we would do anything for that person. I have been with people that I should have cared more for but didn't and I have been with people who really didn't deserve my love but they had it. If you feel you are forcing yourself to love somebody then you don't love them
2007-07-22 00:38:09 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Burns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your not going to like this but here it is
Woman: wander around picking who ever they appeal to at the time, until one day some guy can't stop bothering them. Then finally realizing that this guy is not so bad. Dates them, lives together and finally gets married!
Men: men fall in love with 1-5 woman a day. Going out with as many of them as they can. Until they are so tired of it and think they will never love again. the next girl to walk into there life...is there quote on quote "True love"
"Yuck" *rolls eyes*
2007-07-22 00:33:21 · answer #10 · answered by Meowbow 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋