i have this friend.well she is a really good friend at least thats what i thut.her name is laura.then i have this friend kara.kara is having a party.about the party kara invites laura but not me.when i ask if shes goin she says no shes got plans.but on the nite of the party she calls me.and says so kara didnt invite you?? (she asked that when she already knew the answer).then i said nope she didnt.then she said wats up with that.y didnt she.but then i heard laughter and i ammediately thut she was there at the party and she was testing me to see what i wud say bad bout kara then kara wud be rite there listening.it was 9:30 at nite.(note cell phones have free min. after 9) she said an excuse that she was wasteing her minutes on her cell phone she had to go.then she said she was at her other friends house darcy.i said ok bye.then i heard lots of laughter.
do u think its time to exclude them from my life or what/note that they were lieing and back stabbing me
how shud i handle this??
2007-07-21 16:35:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'd ask yourself, why they were friends with you in the first place. It seems to me they're only friends with you so they have a scapegoat and somebody to brag to so they feel better about themselves. Maybe even when all tier top tier friends are unavailable and they come down the list to you.
Friends are people that are concerned about your problems and will listen to you. You may not hang out with them the most, but you can certainly confide in them than the people you're hanging out with.
Everybody else that you hang out with: If they have to look at there cell phones to see who's calling and decide if they'll answer based on their plans, they are not friends. If they don't want to waste time chatting because it doesn't result in something to do tonight, they don't care about you. They think that when you hang out next time, you're where they left you off at. Hey try this: what if you called because its an emergency and they brush you off because they have plans for tonight already.
Lesson: There are friends and there are people you hang out with. There's a difference between them.
2007-07-21 16:46:25 · answer #1 · answered by Andy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it is backstabbing. A real friend would of not going to the party and hung out with you. She probaly was trying to play u to see if say something about kara. I think you should just go find some new people to hang out with. They are not ur friends they are evil
2007-07-21 23:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by Partygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always the best way...you should ask her what ever it is you want to know, accept whatever answers she gives you and move on. If you are questioning your relationship in your mind, then it is probably time to find yourself a new set of friends....true friends look out of each other all the time, not just part time or when its beneficial to them...
2007-07-21 23:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by stephanie_6234 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true friend is supposed to be supportive and trusting! Doesn't sound like there's either here. Dump-em.
2007-07-21 23:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by woodfrogtaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was lying to you, not backstabbing. If they are your really good friends, I'd advice you to give them a second chance because you don't want to loose them, if they dont apologize and if they do but continue to lie, you don't deserve them.
2007-07-21 23:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it, if they continue to "leave you out" then maybe you should get new friends..but you should give her the benefit of the doubt...maybe she really wasn't there. There are many more ppl out there, you don't need them anyways.
2007-07-21 23:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Jara-Lee♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you don't need childish friends like her. Have nothing to do with her because she sounds like a troublemaker.
2007-07-21 23:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by Pache 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn dump them those freaking backstabbers I mean I would of done that damn but if it was just a prank hmmm you could ask them why they did that and get them back with something
2007-07-21 23:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont freak out on her, just be the bigger person. still be friends w/ her i just wouldn't tell her anything anymore that she would tell other people. and start hanging out w/ other people. don't blow her off cause that it will just be more drama you don't want to deal w/
2007-07-21 23:43:41 · answer #9 · answered by bballxbaby147 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those don't sound like friends ditch them.
those aren't backstabber those are jerks
2007-07-21 23:41:12 · answer #10 · answered by Santos A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋