...My husband and I got saved and redeicated my life 2 years ago. He has been struggling with his drinking but he told me that he was delivered. I learned 3 weeks ago that he started partying, clubbing, drinking and smoking all over again. I love him and want to be with him but he is making it hard for me to live holy for God because I have some of these desires myself. He stays out until all hours of the night and I am miserable. What do I do?
2007-07-21 15:42:35 · 8 answers · asked by blesssedservant 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is called backsliding. He needs your help and the support of others that have experience in this area. Al-anon is a good first step for you..
2007-07-22 22:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing you can do is to talk about his behaviour and what it means to him to live in a holy way. Because to be honest it sounded like he was doing all that Godly stuff for you. But underneath it all he still wanted to party and things like that. If he really has no designs to be more serious in your beliefs or in his own then you really do have to leave him. Because this situation is not only a bad one, but he is tempting you. That is a very dangerous thing to have happen as well. So get out before the devil tries to tempt you down your husband's path.
2007-07-21 15:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk on your spouse first. tell her which you somewhat want out and that that's no longer up for debate. tell her your shifting, sparkling and easy. supply her time to recover from the marvel and then tell her you will possibly choose to have her help in telling the infants. permit her comprehend that when you have the infants, which you will no longer talk ill of her and you anticipate an analogous from her. make certain previously you progression (offering she desires to cooperate) how the infants would be dealt with once you progression. attempt to go interior of sight so the two considered one of you've gotten joint custody and you're as in touch as she. Then take a seat your infants down, clarify what's happening, enable them to comprehend that it particularly isn't any longer THEIR FAULT and tell them what to anticipate so there'll be not extra surprises. This surely relies upon on the cooperation of your spouse. in spite of how diplomatic that's dealt with, in spite of the undeniable fact that, your infants would be harm. even in spite of the undeniable fact which you would be able to tell them it particularly isn't any longer their fault, teenagers have a trend of turning something into their fault. you will additionally in all probability could desire to pay alimony as she has sacrificed having a profession with a view to shield you and your infants. I want i ought to tell you to adhere it out and attempt with counseling back. yet i do no longer understand the unique coaching mandatory to particularly make an assumption the two way. With what you gave us, in spite of the undeniable fact that, i in my view do no longer think of you have a raffle at being appeared at because of the fact the coolest guy in this. as long because it would not contain abuse or infidelity, there is an threat to artwork on your marriage.
2016-10-09 05:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by logston 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him how you feel and give counseling a try! If that doesn't help then move on with your life with God!
2007-07-21 15:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be able to help himself, but YOU can still help YOURSELF. Al-anon may help you deal with him and your own frustrations. Still, you may have to come to terms with the fact that you can not save him, but you can save yourself.
2007-07-21 15:52:27 · answer #5 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start going to Al-anon to help yourself and to see how to deal with him in a way that doesn't make you crazy.
2007-07-21 15:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. He doesn't care about you enough to stop.
2007-07-21 15:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him choose
2007-07-21 15:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by kesha826 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋