my mother &father inlaw owned a resort for 30 years.when i married my husband, i started to work there , this is my 8th year.they sold the resort last year. the woman i work for now, is always pulling me aside, and scolding me for something small, like 1 pine needle was left on the kitchen floor. this resort is way out in the wilderness, and pne needles are a part of life. her husband has a great sence of humor, and is always joking with us, and talking to us. if she sees this, she immeadiatly cuts him off and says( GET BACK TO WORK) her last worker, before me walked out on her in mid season, she called me, begging for my help, so i did, am i wrong for wanting to walk out to? why is she so mean to me?
2007-07-21 15:25:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
next time she yells at you calmly look at her and tell her that you took this job to help her out and your not her door mat and if she doesnt like the way you work,that you can walk right out that door the same way you came in.
2007-07-21 16:08:04 · answer #1 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may be mean to you because of the pressure of her marriage. You never know if he is up to something and she has a business there and trying to get him to pitch in and help. she probably carries the entire load and he has a good sense of humor but he tries by making a joke of everything
and she doesnt see anything to joke about. she probably is very tired and maybe even financially in a bind
we never know just what the underlying cause is
she must trust you and you must be a good worker . I think I would get my mind on something else, stay with the job and it will all fall into place. If he isnt serious and you people quit giving him attention he might find something to do. when you are around either one dont talk much and just smile you will be surprised how good that works dont let anyone know whats on the inside of you for this situation
2007-07-21 15:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I was you I would start looking for another job while you have this one, as your new female boss doesn't seem to have idea on how to empower the workers, let alone getting the best out of them and yes she maybe jealous of you.
It may also be that its a new business for her and she is taking it very seriously and therefore wishes to see the staff take on the same approach and aim for perfection.
I took my roll as an assistant manageress very seriously and won "The Pride Of Workmanship Award", but on doing so I also empowered my workers and had the occasional joke with them. Cheers
2007-07-21 15:51:31 · answer #3 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you were there far before she ever thought of getting the place and if she doesn't lighten up, she'll be without the good help that you provide. If she gives you any crap, just say...You need to learn the meaning of a warning, then walk out. If she has an ounce of brains she will offer your job back with some changes. If not, then your better off without her. Good luck.
2007-07-21 15:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have the choice of walking out. You also have the opportunity to have a talk with her. Explain what it is that's bothering you. Sounds like she has a lot of insecurities and is taking them out on you. So acknowledge her concerns about having the place look "just right", ask her how you can best help her accomplish this and ask her if she will help you adjust to her requirements. But talk with her and try to recognize that she is probably frightened, feeling insecure and trying to do her best.
2007-07-21 15:32:12 · answer #5 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're wrong for wanting to. You should, however, either give 2 weeks notice and look for another job...or have a talk with her or her husband about how you're being treated by her. Let them know that if it continues you will need to look for another job where you will feel appreciated.
2007-07-21 15:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by StacieG 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are being mistreated by your boss leave immediately. A worker has no obligation to be loyal to a boss that abuses her.
2007-07-21 15:37:05 · answer #7 · answered by Julius C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you attractive? is she jealous of you? maybe she is just down right mean as a person...sounds like she is not too happy with her life and maybe taking it out on others.
2007-07-21 15:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by akitamommy2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋