What do I do?

Question

My daughter will not let me put her down when she is sleeping. I will hold her and she will go to sleep so I will put her down and her eyes will open right when I put her down. Is she spoiled already? (2 1/2 weeks old) Or what should I do?

Answer 1

my son did that when he was a baby. I would rub his little head and he'd fall right back to sleep :)

Answer 2

Spoiled isn't the right word. She is just 2 1/2 weeks old and she doesn't know anything but feeling the human touch, eating, and being comforted. She's way too young to be spoiled. Some babies need more physical touch and others don't. If you want to put her down after she falls asleep, try wedging her between two pillows. I would put 2 pillows next to each other and put my son in between them. Or I would take a pillow and put it up against the cushion on the back of the couch and wedge him between the pillow and the back cushion. Or, try a pacifier. Also, sometimes babies grow out of needing to be held to sleep. It just takes time.

Answer 3

there is no such thing as spoiling a baby! try tying her up in a burrito (if she will stay-my little ones didn't like to be wrapped) and when she goes to sleep, wait 5 minutes or so; when you put her in the crib put her down on her side and roll her over gently and slowly however she likes to sleep. -mine were all tummy babies (the back to sleep is crap, just make sure the mattress is firm, thin sheet on top, blanket(s) on the baby but not along her head-a few inches below her chin. I have 5 kids, 10, 8, 8, 3, 2.) My youngest always sensed me moving her away from my chest and lowering her into bed. Another way is to lay her sideways in your arms, cradeling her head, when you get to her crib bend at the waist and lower as much of yourself into bed, and slowly lower her down. Lay your hand on her stomach/back for a minute, then pull away.
Or, if she is the only one, you can always sleep in bed with her; before nap put a pillow lengthwise on one edge of the bed, then pull the sheets all the way up and over the pillow and tuck it under the side (this keeps the pillow on the bed-try pushing the pillow off where the baby will sleep) after you nurse/feed the baby and burp her well, lay down with her on the side w/ the pillow-she doesn't need to be against the pillow, it's just there in the event she learns to roll-just getting you used to doing it all the time now so in a few months when she actually can you don't have to worry) If this goes well you can always take a few minutes to relax and make sure she is asleep before you gently get out of bed, putting another pillow under the sheets by the edge of the bed where you were and tuck the sheets around the pillow Make sure she is well burped before you put her in bed, sometimes having one bubble in there makes it impossible to put her down for bed. Hope this helps! P.S. When the dr.s ask if you're putting her back to sleep always answer yes so you don't get the lecture. The "specialists" keep changing their minds on babies sleeping positions ex: stomach, back, side-they even made this ridiculous looking thing you strapped the baby to so that the baby would stay on its side. I'm not kidding; not to mention that women have been giving birth and raising kids since Eve, before the specialists, before beds, and she obviously did just fine. There are a lot less deaths now than back then because of technology; my first born was 9 weeks early and if it weren't for technology he wouldn't be here; and I'm grateful for that!

Answer 4

This is actually quite common for babies her age. She is not spoiled. She is just too new out of the comfort and coziness of her womb home and hasn't quite yet learned the ways of the world. She has spent the first 9 months of her life close to you and she likes to be in your arms to sleep. She is used to the warmth and closeness plus the sounds of being inside you. You may want to try swaddling her. My grandson (now 3 months old) was a poor sleeper until I bought him a swaddling blanket (a receiving blanket works too for a baby your daughter's age). He loves being swaddled and he sleeps wonderfully in it. Back in the day when my older 3 were babies, most babies slept on their tummies, it was nearly unheard of to put a baby to sleep on their back. I have been doing daycare in my home for 20 years. As it became the recommendation for babies to sleep on their backs, I began to notice that these babies just don't sleep as well. I understand the reduced risk factor for back sleeping babies, but some babies have trouble adjusting to this sleeping position. If your baby is just opening her eyes when you lay her down you may want to try just letting her lay there awake for a bit. She may just be reacting to the change in positions but will go back to sleep if you just let her be. As the two of you get to know each other better, you will begin to recognize her cries and will know if her cry is just a fussy, trying to go to sleep cry or a hunger cry or a painful cry, etc. Some babies just need to fuss a little bit before settling in to sleep. The first 6 weeks of a baby's life is quite an adjustment for both baby and parents.

Answer 5

my son was the SAME WAY!!!!!!! if you have a mobile or little toy that lightly sings that MIGHT help but what I had to do is when I noticed him fading out I would ajust him in my arms to a position where it would be easy to transfer him from arms to crib. Also befor you are getting him settles (prefably when you 1st get him up so you dont forget,) take a little blanket and roll it up tight so that it is somewhat like the shape of your arm when you lay her down push it against her side/back (however she sleeps) and another ont other side or front. If you lay her on the side she may sleep better but take the blanket you put infront of her and start it from her belly down so she does not put it on her face. Once I did that not only did he not wake up as soon as I put him down but he sleeped LONGER!!!!

Answer 6

I baby sat my niece and she does that. My sister-in-law ended up putting her in the baby swing and she fell back to sleep. Hey at 2 1/2 weeks she isn't spoiled. It just takes time for you and her to get on a schedule etc. Whatever works to get her to sleep and for you to get some rest. That's my advice! Who cares as long as it works! Good Luck!

Answer 7

I agree with Eileen B. I used a baby sling and "wore" my youngest baby. In other cultures, you see the Moms carrying their babies or wearing them, instead of keeping them in baby seats for much of the time. The baby naturally is comforted by being close to the Mom or Dad.

Also, our youngest baby slept with us at night and it worked out beautifully. She was breastfed. (I had tried that with my older two, but just was not successful.) Throughout the youngest child's infancy, I only missed 2-3 nights of sleep, and those were only nights when she was sick and we were up for that reason. Otherwise, we all slept through the night. (Our older two children "slept" in cribs, but I was up and down all night long tending them.)

I would recommend, however, that if you do choose to have your baby sleep with you, that you be very careful to prevent either you or your husband from accidentally smothering her. (This does, unfortunately, happen, and what a horribly sad thing.)

There is an expensive gadget you could purchase that attaches to the parents' bed, that the baby sleeps in beside the Mom.

However, what we did was very inexpensive and very safe. We purchased a doggie or kitty bed, something that was soft and comfortable for the baby, and we took the pillow out of it, and just lined it with a baby planket.

Your youngest slept in her its little bed between me and hubby. That way, we did not roll over onto her accidentally. She slept with us until she was 2-1/2 years old, when she wanted to start sleeping with her older sisters at night so she could have bedtime story time with them, sort of sister bonding time.

Anyway, enjoy your baby, do not worry about "spoiling" her. It is natural for a young one to want to be close to its parent, whether it is a human, kitten, puppy, chick, etc.

Just relax. Make sure you get plenty of rest. That was my biggest mistake with my first two babies; I did not make sure I got enough rest, and I was too exhausted to enjoy being a Mom.

I knew better with the third baby; I got as much sleep as she did and we had a great experience!

Our daughters are 19, 23, and 25, and way too big and old for us to hold them. They laugh at me when I tell them how much I miss those sweet baby days!!! Looking forward to grandchildren.

Take care and God Bless!!!

Answer 8

Yup. spoiled & thinks she needs to be held all the time. You may have to try to get her asleep while already lying down with her. You may have to try putting her to sleep in a carrier with you sitting there jiggling it or her in a moving swing and gradually getting her use to just laying down for sleep. This will take you thru some crying on her part; but you need to break her habit soon or you could end up holding her for bed for years to come.

Answer 9

sorry, but that's what they do! she isn't spoiled she is too young. at first some babies really like to be held all the time... but it passes eventually. these are the joys of being a new parent! :)

babies have a unique ability to know if you sit down from standing, or changing them from a comfortable position. it can be frustrating holding them all the time but it will stop after a certain amount of time. try a snuggly/ baby bjorn to give your arms a break.

Answer 10

Put her down. She will cry, and then fall asleep.

Parents have strong opinions about this one. If you aren't willing to have some crying over this, the only answer is don't put her down.

Also, there's no such thing as "spoiled" at 2.5 weeks.

Answer 11

let her sleep in your arms and enjoy it as much as you can because it won't last for long. when she is really sound asleep, she won't be awakened by you putting her down. try waiting 20 mintues, if that doesn't work try waiting 30 minutes or 15 minutes. You want to move her when she is in deep sleep.