So I have a bf last march. I broke up with him and fell for this another guy who's the top 1 of our class and the heartthrob too. We we're together since april up to present. So when classes started, there we're a lot of gossips about us, especially about me. I ignored this gossips for i really love him. Then, last week i learned that he's besfriend (a girl), one of my closest friends (a boy) and another biotch in our class were stabbing me behind back. This besfriend of his knew our problem last may which should be a secret. For we trusted her, not to tell anyone. Then this guy, is our family friend. I treated him like my brother. The other girl, she's really a damn f*uc*ing s***. Damn. I really hate them. They were saying bad things which were not even true. I'm really not affected by what they were saying for those were damn lies. What made me so affected is THEM, for they were my so-called trusted close friends that i never expected to do such bad things to me. What shall i do?
2007-07-21 14:16:30 · 4 answers · asked by hermione 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Why do you think they were lying about you? What was motivating them to act this way? Was it jealousy? Need for attention? Scoring points by being able to tell the "inside scoop" on your life? A lot times people are driven by their own emotinal neediness. We do strange and illogical things out of our emotional neediness. Now, that doesn't lessen the pain of their actions... but perhaps it can help you come to a place of being able to put this all behind a little quicker. Regardless of whether or not your relationship with them is ever reconciled, the hatred and unforgiveness you feel is only hurting you. It is never easy to forgive. And I am certainly not saying you should put yourself in harm's way with them again.... but all the negative emotions are harming YOU and you only. And, forgiving someone is a choice. It is a decision. It is a function of your will. It is not dependent upon you "FEELING" like forgiving them. Once you make the decision to NOT be enslaved by the negative emotions from this betrayal, once you see how damaging it is to YOU, it makes it easier to say, "I don't want to be ruled by this anger, hatred and unforgiveness. I don't like what it does to my countenance and my body. I choose to release them to God and forgive them. I CHOOSE to be free."
No, it is not easy. But it is do-able! I challenge you to rise above it all!
2007-07-21 17:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by laineyisat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like they aren't your good friends, and maybe just don't be friends anymore. don't be mean to them, cause that's just sinking to their level, and you never want to burn bridges either, cause you never know in the future something may happen that you need their help, so don't make them hate you like you do them right now. maybe later in the future, things will wind down and you'll be good again, but for now, don't tell them anything else, and continue on with your life to show them that they can't affect you, and maybe they'll stop, people just do things for reactions. i don't know, good luck
2007-07-21 21:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jo Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...don't say "shall".please.
but maybe you shoudl confront your friends
2007-07-21 21:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FORGIVE HIM !
FORGIVE HER !
FORGIVE THEM !
FEEL LIKE HEAVEN !!!!
FEEL LIKE GOD!!!!!!!!!
AND I M TELLING U WHEN U FORGIVE PEOPLE U WOULD FEEL LIKE GOD.
2007-07-22 13:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by Ganesh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋