I mean, i feel like she deserves better, because i am stubborn and she says i am too hard. I don't try to be hard, but i tell her i am who i am and i was like this when she married me, so now she wants me to be all sweet and i just can't. I really don't know what to do , stay or go. I guess its true when men say you can never please a woman.
2007-07-21 13:54:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The reason i feel like leaving is because she deserves someone better, also, i am tired of having to guess what she wants or what she is thinking. I tell her, if you want me to do it, tell me, i cant read minds.
2007-07-21 14:03:02 · update #1
Stan, don't leave your wife over something petty. She deserves better??? Well, for her it don't get no better than you. You said it yourself, your wife wants to be with YOU. She loves your stubborn self. Us women say one thing but usually we mean something else. Say you guys ask do we want this certain dress we've been wanting, we'll tell you guys," No, that's OK. There is other stuff we need more than a stupid dress." Then, you guys go off thinking were OK. Then, we get highly upset thinking you guys should have known we really wanted that dress. I guess we need to communicate better and not beat around the bush. We also like to drop hints. So, it would be helpful if you ask more questions, so you can figure out what it is that she wants from you. Now about you being all HARD, Stan its OK for you to be soft sometimes. I'm the same way, its hard for me to be all sweet and affectionate because my parents were never that way w/ me. But, I try hard to break that barrier because I don't want the people I love the most thinking I don't care or love them. I hope I made sense and helped you.
PS. Hmmm.....there might be more to the story, I hope you haven't found some Beyonce look alike. Just kidding. : )
2007-07-21 18:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong with your general makeup....men will be men.....
Long as you are not hitting and beating on her, or emotionally abusing her, I would stay.
Your cover is a little hard, thats OK, she LOVES you, now that is SPECIAL.
I don't know your age, and etc., but you will mellow out some with time. You both will appreciate it.
You generally can't please any woman, but LOVING her goes many miles.....she'll learn to accept the rest if you can to that.
I really think you both just NEED to accept each other as you are, quit trying to change anyone into something neither one of you are....everything will be fine.
Don't piss away the Love of your lives......over little stupid things. The grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence.....just completely dead once you get over there.....Take off them jumpin' shoes.... Good Luck Man!
2007-07-21 21:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by HowFuzzyWuzee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How it was when you were married is besides the point. Life changes. The goal post keeps moving but that isn't all bad. You just can't assume life doesn't change, because it will. You may need to learn how to deal with change because that is a lot of life. Good luck!
2007-07-21 21:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by Menehune 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you both need to go to counseling so you can work out your issues and make your marriage what it should be & what you both want it to be.
I can almost guarantee that if you make your woman happy, you'll end up a very happy man!
2007-07-21 21:28:34 · answer #4 · answered by StacieG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a man married to a selfish *****.
This is the type of sillyness that ensues.
2007-07-21 21:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on shes your wife.... try to make it work with her! don't just leave!.... talk to her and tell her how u feel and ask her how u guys can fix your relationship to make it better. shes your wife u can't just give up on her. theres a reason u married her. don't leave.
2007-07-21 21:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No that saying is absolutely not true. Maybe it's just that YOU can't please your woman. Marriage is a two way street and you simply havent learned the secret of 50/50. You should think before you say anything to your wife. Don't ever say anything that you think could hurt her in some way and never do anything that you wouldn't want done to yourself. Good luck.
2007-07-21 21:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
stay and work out the problems by talking and looking for solutions not blame who is right and who is at fault. just solutions and compasion towards others feeling.
2007-07-21 20:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
stan,
if you feel like you should not be with her.. then leave. But REALLY think about it first. If i were you i would stay with her 4 a while. aAnd if nothing changes, then leave if you must.
Best of luck,
Gangsta
2007-07-21 20:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by <3Mariah<3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you sound like a very cold person. If you love your wife then it's possible very possible to please her!! Unless of course you don't want to put effort into your marriage.
2007-07-21 21:01:05 · answer #10 · answered by butterfly 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋