Basically, a lot of my old friends have moved away or we've grown apart and I find myself with very few friends these days. I'm 23, kind of girlie, ambisious and fun. I used to have lots of friends at high school and these day it's not the case...
Over the past year or two I think it would be fair to say that a bit of my confidence in approaching people has gone, I used to be quite OK in speaking to people in all types of situations but these days I really struggle. My days basically consist of going to work, going to the gym and studying and it's getting REALLY boring.
The problem for me is that I currently study through distance learning and i work in an office where everyone is at least 10+ years older than me, there's only 5 of us in the office and it's unlikely we'll ever go out for a drink after work with one another. All I would like is to make some new friends my own age to hang out with.
Any ideas as to how I can go about this?
Thanks for any advice. :-)
2007-07-21 13:26:04 · 6 answers · asked by Scarlet Siren 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Have you tried getting back in contact with any of your friends from high school that you've mentioned? There are plenty of ways to do this now, from directly through old phone numbers(not mobiles, but landlines seldom change), contacting their parents to forward your own details if you can remember where they lived, to using "teh interweb:P" - Friends Reunited may not be such a popular idea now, but even sites like Bebo have a school friend search on them now. You'll probably find that even one friend you get back in with will open up a whole new social circle for you!
As far as new friends go, see if there's any hobbies, clubs or night courses that take your fancy, and trade off one of your gym days to take that up instead - anything to get you in contact with new people.
Most importantly, be yourself - nothing will pull your self confidence back up - if you talk to someone and they're iunterested in friendship, give yourself a pat on the back. If it doesn't seem to go, or they brush you off, just think "they didn't deserve me as their friend, I'm better off without" and move on.
Stay away from negative thoughts, and more importantly, negative people, and you'll be fine.
Good luck hon!
2007-07-21 13:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by Purecheese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there's nothing to but just to do it. That I what I use to say. I can relate a little. I dont have aprob;em talking to people but I just moved to a new state and allof my friends are where I use to live, but I have met a few people that I talk to on the phone and we hang out seldomly. Give it time. you'll meet new people. I personally am very careful when it comes to who I hang out with. Simply because I like a positive, fun and motivated crowd, a crowd that likes to have fun but has a head. not the kind of person that likes to wild out because that can go from real fun to real foul in a hot second. But give it time Im sure you'll meet some friends. If you'd like to e-mail me feel free. Good Luck
2007-07-21 13:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by cha-cha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met a lot of friends by joining activities that I liked. You can take dance classes, martial arts (how i met a lot of mine), or even small chat with people at the gym. I wouldn't suggest hanging out at a bar by yourself because chances are, you will meet people that will not make for a good stable friendship. Those would just turn into people you would party with and nothing more...but if that's what you want..than do that.
2007-07-21 13:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same "problem" is really hard to make true friends, I'm also 23 & if you find a nice answer let me know!
2007-07-21 13:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by Mark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join a few clubs and you'll meet a few new people and you 'll be able to choce some to be your friends
2007-07-24 23:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may make new friends
2007-07-21 19:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋