I'm so worried about getting married. I am 23 and it seems like all of my friends that have gotten married are divorced and/or not happy with their Significant Other. Granted, most of them married at a young age and usually young marriages don't last. Anyway, I just want to know if anyone out there is in a HAPPY marriage and what you do to keep it happy? How did you know that your partner was right for you?
2007-07-21 13:25:48 · 10 answers · asked by Jenny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you may think love is #1, but respect is the big one. If you don't respect your spouse (or aren't respected by your spouse) your marriage has a big problem. Nobody's perfect, and you need to learn tolerance for the little things --toothpaste tube issues; your spouse will always do certain things which irritate you, which you will never, ever change. These little things are not problems unless you make them problems. Have outside interests; you don't need to be together 24 hrs. a day. Finally, don't tidy up each other's spaces. Men need a workshop, a room, a nightstand they don't have to clean up if they don't want to; women need their spice racks or parlors or closets organized the way they like them.
2007-07-24 00:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by doovinator 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby and I just celebrated our 11 year anniversary a few weeks ago. We married when I was 19 & he was 21. We have two children and are very happy together. I will be honest...it has not always been easy, but it sure has been memorable.
When we got married everyone said we wouldn't last 2 years....and now look at us!!!
Don't let other failed marriages around you stop you from experiencing a highlight that most girls dream of from childhood. Your marriage will be what YOU make it. Marriage is a lot of work, but it is worth it and if your love is genuine and strong, you will make it through.
Marriage is a wonderful event and there are successful marriages out there. Lots of people marry young and stay toghether until they die....it's just that divorce rates are so high and everyone is always talking about that, that we lose sight of the good marriages amist all the bad ones.
2007-07-21 13:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have seen many successfull marages in my time and the things that I think make a good marige are the same in all.
Treat your spuose like a friend.
Never look down at the other or use contempt when haveing an argument .
Do the little things because those are the things that count .
remember when it comes to family and friends they can have an opinion but not a vote and dont air all your dirty laundrey to them because it will make the other look bad in their eyes beacuse the only get your side of the story.
I know a couple who just turned 80 and have been maried 60 years 11 kids 36 grandkids 4 great grandkids . theye were high school sweethearts and treat each other with compleet respect.
2007-07-21 13:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by Rock Star Outlaw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
me...happily married for 5 years and i love him more each day....I look at him and think how lucky I'am. I never thought of myself as a marriage type. We are young in our late 20s and living life with lots of fun. We still go out partying with friends. We do not have children and have decided NOT to rush into having children yet until our mid 30s.
Some people take marriage way too serious and watch their spouse under a microscope.
2007-07-21 13:45:59 · answer #4 · answered by Life is FUn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are no guarantees in life. The man that left me after 25 years has parents who have been married 59 years. They are the most wonderful people I ever met. They still hold hands.
Just do the best you can to love him with all your heart. Talk things out. Always, always, be honest with each other. If, by God's grace, you have children, be on the same page as far as raising them.
Good luck to you. I wish you all the happiness in the world.
2007-07-21 13:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by wc2ketey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well im 38,husband is 42,been together 17 yrs and happily married 16 yrs and we love each more then anymore,are each others best friend,soulmate and lover.We couldnt imagine life without each other..We get along great,have lots of laughs,are open and honest with each other and rarely fight and thats how we keep our marriage happy.
2007-07-21 13:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Successful and happy are subjective words. I adore my wife and she loves me, but we have our issues. The breakneck pace of life in the modern world tends to eliminate a lot of "quality time", so we don't get to spend as much time together as we'd like. There's always something.
However, we both value our marriage and despite these and other issues, we'll work to keep it intact. It's too easy to just bail and rationalize some justification to screw it up. It's a lot of work and dedication, but I think it's worth it. Nothing worthwhile is ever easy.
2007-07-21 13:55:09 · answer #7 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be happy as long as you don't put your husband on a pedestal like so many wives do.You think he is so wonderful so loving and trust worthy and in reality he is none of those things.As long as you have no dissolution of marriage then you will make it. Just remember he is a man and men make mistakes if you go in with that attitude you will have a good marriage.
2007-07-21 13:55:06 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have been married for 39 yrs.I was 19 and he was 21.We have had good and bad times but you have to work at it all the time.We are happy.Love grows and changes over the years and you come to know each other better.
2007-07-21 13:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by flossie mae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many many of them..
2007-07-21 13:42:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋