My friends friend died, but I don't know what to say to my friend. What can I say nice thing? I haven't experienced others died really so I don't know. My friend is feeling really down. Please help.
2007-07-21 13:19:26 · 19 answers · asked by Chris 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Both of my parents and my brother have passed away. During my grieving period, I preferred that my friends wouldn't ask me constantly how I'm feeling. I just wanted them to give me some space and to mourn privately.
Just tell your friend that she can call you anytime she needs you. And then give her some space. Let her mourn--don't pressure her or lecture her on moving on. If she wants to be depressed, let her be. She has to undergo certain emotions before she can really move on with her life and be truly happy again.
2007-07-29 00:42:12 · answer #1 · answered by anaknivictoria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now isn't the time for talking, now is the time for listening. You can start with sincere condolences or I'm sorry, but listening is way more important. Your friend needs to grieve his loss, and sometimes the best way to do that is talking about it. Your job is to listen....just listen. Sounds easy, but it isn't. Listeners, really good listeners, don't interrupt or change the subject when the current subject is uncomfortable and doesn't interrupt or add their own opinion into the mix. Just keep the ears open and pay attention to what your friend is saying. Sometimes you can help a person through their loss just by being there.
2007-07-29 09:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by Eric C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to say is that you are sorry and if the person wants to talk, you are ready to listen. There isn't much else you can say. Death is one of those situations that requires listening more than talking and quiet support. Adults sometimes prepare a meal or something and send a card. Listening may nt seem like much, but it really means a lot. Sometimes people don't want to talk right away. Sometimes they want to talk later, when no one really wants to talk any more because they have moved on. Remember that, because listening later is more important than listening at the time. People need time to process their loss and the closer they were, the more time they may need. I have had several losses. I still feel the pain and need to talk about them sometimes.
2007-07-21 20:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by cavassi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him"I am so sorry with your loss" and hug him.You never forget when people hug you after you lost your friend or any other. I found out a lot of words is not needed because they hardly hear that ,it is the human contact what makes you feel good.I only add "If there is something I can do call me"
Good luck.
2007-07-27 20:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by yasses 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look her in the eye, hug her and say , your friend has not died... because (touch her heart with your palm) she will always be alive here. Remember her in all the good and bad times you shared and cherish her moments in your life with smiles and not tears... she would not want her friend to be sad. Tell her that her friend is free now, dancing on rainbows, sailing through clouds, and laughing with all the angels, and one day they will have life together again.
2007-07-29 10:21:59 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happened to me, and I found my friends couldn't really understand what i was going through, b/c you can only understand it if you go through it yourself. So I would do nothing, b/c any kind of attention could just hurt your friend any more; people in those situations usually think "What can HE possibly know what I am going through?" or whatever, so I would just give your friend some space, and let him reach out to you. just say you are there for him no matter what, if he ever needs to talk, he can always count on you", that's it. He will reach out when he is ready.
2007-07-21 20:27:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend you're sorry. Then the absolute best thing you can do is LISTEN! Give your friend a supportive person to TALK and express their feelings and share their memories. That is how you best be a friend to your friend.
2007-07-23 04:27:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep, i think what others had to say is good... i would send your condolences....... and also say that you are there, if he needs anyone... and i would give him a hug, and all that jazz. tell them to give you a call if they need anything.... or just wanna talk... the best bet is not to change their attitude, but just comfort them in their time of need. people react differently to death... flowers are always good. i like to go for a drive on a back road, and find wild flowers... for a nice bouquet....... on the sides of the road and junk.... they usually have some pretty flowers.... it's also calming just to go driving. i hope i may of said something good... that would help you some. just be their friend.... and a good listener, and a nice shoulder to lean on.
2007-07-21 20:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that only he knows how badly he will miss his friend, but that you are available to him at anytime, if he needs to talk about how he feels. Tell him you care and you are his friend and that he is not alone and you are sorry for his loss.
2007-07-21 20:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by flieder77 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can say, you should not say anything about it. doing so will only make that person feel bad.
This person needs to work something like this out for them self. people have a way to cope with things like this in their own ways. no one is the same. give them time, you will see. everything will be fine.
thing like this happen to everyone, in their life. it is a part of life. and they need to cope with it in their own way. because something like this will happen again some where in that persons life. and you will not be there to help.
2007-07-28 05:50:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋