I got divorced three months ago and im still walking around i really loved this woman even though she was abusive to me, i still dont feel right will this feeling ever go away, anyone out there been in the same boat?? i feel like im walking around making it day by day.
2007-07-21 13:02:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been there and done it. I think we miss the person who we knew before the abuse. Remember all the bad things she did and when you see they out weigh the good, then you will be able to move on. It takes time, so trying to rush this grief process will not help you. What I did was sit down one day when I was missing him and remember the bad verus the good and realized what I was missing was the man I had fell in love with. Take it one step at a time and good luck
2007-07-21 13:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is never easy, whether it was planned/unplanned, agreed to/unagreed to, etc. It takes a while to learn to live on your own and be without the person you have been with day and night for the last however many years.
What you're feeling is normal and is nothing to be ashamed of. It will take you some time to re-adjust to being just YOU and not part of a couple. The feelings you are having may never go away, but they will not always be as painful as they are now. It will just take some time.
Be patient with yourself and don't try to push yourself. In time, you will begin to see a new you and build a new life....a better life! Best of luck!
2007-07-21 20:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making it day by day. It will hurt. You have to allow yourself this feeling and to think about all of it, and absorb.
I also know it will get better with time. Each day you will think a little less, until a few months...and then one day, you will realize you went the whole day without thinking about her. But you are so allowed to always remember her. You loved her. That will never change. Time will heal. Guaranteed. Go see a movie, watch a sunset, take a bike ride. Remember the awesome things in life you still have.
2007-07-21 20:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by jaimi b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your situation before. It hurts and it sucks but with time the hurt will fade and you will find someone new. I did not date for 10 months after my divorce and spent the time with family and friends. Give yourself time to heal and learn from mistakes you may have made in your marriage. I would not suggest to just jump into another relationship right away because you may end up making more bad decisions.
You know yourself better than anyone. Hang in there, it will get better.
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-07-21 20:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by Colleen G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , as time goes by each day will get better. Sounds like you will be happier in the long run, my oldest sister is going through the same thing, her husband was a real jerk. and really self centered . and I tell her the same thing every day . when she is ready she will meet someone who will treat her so much better. she is such a loving person, I wish you the best . do things that you enjoy, hang out with your friends. go to movies. don't sit around and grief for her,
2007-07-21 20:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by Joan f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He got a divorce in April a few days before my birthday (this year) and he remarried in may the month of our (what would have been ) our 20th anniversary.
I have a new job and I havent worked in years at his request.
We will make it through this one day at a time. Life is just diffferent now and strange. Good that you are seeking answers to your questions.
Good Luck to you.
2007-07-21 20:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was never married to him but i dated a man for eight years who was very abusive to me. It started great then he started drinking and then using cocaine all the time and he argued with me at first all the time then he started hitting me and i ended up in jail for eight hours because i didn't come home at the right time and he jumped me at the door and started hitting me and then started to strangle me and i hit him in the mouth as hard as i could to show him i wasn't gonna just take his crap i was gonna fight back. So though you may still have love for this person its better to have cut your ties with her before something like this happen to the both of you.Maybe this way you can still be friends. I learned later he hasn't changed and still drinks,does drugs and beats on woman. I'm not saying your ex is this kind of person but i didn't think my ex was either. Find someone who loves you for you and will never put there hands on you but to love you with them.
2007-07-21 20:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to feel this way for a while. You are greiving in a sense. Hang in there, one foot in front of the other. Stay busy. If she was abusive, you did the right thing and it will get better. Allow yourself to grow now as you are healing.
It will get better but it takes time.
2007-07-21 20:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by Frances B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
women generally go threw this part. u need sum me time to ur self. it sounds like ur one of those who was a softy. sorry!!! its called a broken heart. It doesnt seems like it will ever go away but it will !! U dont need to jump in to another relationship because right now u will only get hurt again. Time mends a broken heart and heals all wounds!!! God dont put anything on us that we cant handle. u will get passed this. pray everynite for God to send u sum one that will treat u right and ask him to help u get over what ur going threw. and u will make it.!!!
2007-07-21 20:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by sean a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go Meet People , i dont know where you live but try to ocupy your time and make some friends , likeminded folk, and dont judge yourself by wether you are in a relationship or not , Ive been there , done that.
2007-07-21 20:09:23 · answer #10 · answered by Rock Star Outlaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋