My mom is in jail right now for larceny, and she got a sentence of 6 years, so can get out for good behavior in 3 years. she wants me, and my family to come and visit her every week. I have 3 children, and a husband. Both my husband, and I work so we don't get to spend too much time together as a family. She wants me and the children only to visit her 3 times a week. I don't really think it's necessary because, I would like to do family things with my family, and not run up there 3 times a week. I am there for my mom, I write to her, and I do visit when i can. Do you think I am wrong for not wanting to visit her when she wants. By the way it's 1hour & 45 mins from where I live.
2007-07-21 13:00:51 · 17 answers · asked by Sweet 5 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
well she's a criminal and has a hell of a lot of nerve too!
how inconsiderate and controlling of her..
are you going to allow her to control you like that.?!
get support form your husband or a therapist or even th prison chaplain, .I
interesting she doesn't want the hubby showing..
shes been a bad girl .. rewards are not what the time is about.
should you make some reasonable visits like once a month and help make sure she gets some basic things allowed she might need ? yes.
should you suffer and continually expose your children to such a bad place disrupt your life and incur the expense and time! from your family.. so she doesn't suffer so much for her crimes?
i say no.
I'd say, until i read otherwise, the way she's trying to treat you is another symptom of the personality problem that got her there.
maybe she "needs" fro you to send her a pile of used self help books to work on improving and rehabilitating herself instead.
2007-07-21 13:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by macdoodle 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mom shouldn't expect you to visit 3 times a week when you have a family that you want to spend time with. It's a long way to go with gas prices. So visit when you can and spend time doing things with your family and enjoy life. Get her to see that you just can't get to see her that much. Maybe she will think about getting in trouble and going to jail and not do it again after she gets out. Good luck.
2007-07-21 13:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line her. Mom I love you and miss ya but, their is no way in H$%L That I am able to visit you that many times A week! Give her the reasons then you lay out A visiting plan that your Whole family can " Aunts, Uncles,Grandma, and your brothers n sisters" know thats when and go with that. I Would let her know the times she can call you. Collect calls from Any Prison ends up costing, between 6.99 to 9.99 A minute. My
friend use to get them from his brother until
he cut him off to 1 A month. I hope this helps.
2007-07-22 21:10:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don’t think that’s wrong at all. It is nice to visit one a week but 3 time a week is too much. You have your own life and family. She chooses her life and your there for her by writing letter and visit once a week what more can you do. You can only do so much till you had enough.
2007-07-21 13:12:18 · answer #4 · answered by Ceon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a huge burden to go visit 3 times a week! No, you go when and if you want to. You are under no obligation to visit your mom that much. Maybe if you don't visit that much it will reinforce for her how terrible her mistake was and the consequences of landing herself in jail.
2007-07-21 13:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by HachiMachi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no sweet it is not wrong to visit her when she wants you to. She will just have to understand you have a family of your own and that you need to be there for your kids. I think she should be happy that you write her and visit her when you can. Some moms dont even get that from there kids.
2007-07-21 16:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was my mom, I would visit her every once in while definitely less than once a week.
And I would NEVER EVER under any circumstance bring my children to a jail. And if my mom pressured me to I would tell her. NO, end of discussion and if you bring it up you will never see your grandchildren after you get out of jail. I will not subject my children to a prison enviromenment and you are a selfish person to want to subject your grandchildren to this environement becuase of you crimes.
2007-07-21 14:54:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sweet,
Your existance in this world was possible only because of your mom. She is your creator. For nine months, she bore all the pains keeping you in her womb. Keep all things aside and be there by her side when she is going through difficult times. I hr & 45 minutes is much less than 9 months. Please do go and meet her at leat once in 15 days if not every week.
Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.
Pay my compliments as well to her.
Best Wishes
2007-07-21 18:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by Rohit 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not wrong of you. She did the crime and now she has to do the time. You have your own family to worry and you HAVE to put their needs above hers. It sounds a little harsh but do you really want your kids growing up in that environment? Where jail visits are normal?
2007-07-21 13:04:52 · answer #9 · answered by darkestsith 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just thank if your mom was not in trouble and in the hospital would you stile be the same way and turn that around if you were in the hospital or other, visits from family is the most important and to see those grandchildren grow not a time warp of young and much older.
2007-07-21 13:07:41 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋