my story...at first this guy would tell me how much he wants me and that he likes me and cant wait to see me...cuz he does live in a different state...right
then he tells me recently that he is going to the army for 6 years...but he is still coming to see me
i am piss off...
what does he mean he is going the army what about us?
he already served....i told him i didnt want him to go....he told me he hasnt even seen me ....and then i said exactly...he states that he is still coming to see me...he also never calls me or saids he miss me are nothing..just everything else....then he told me i was overreacting...when i left messages of the same thing...telling him dont go...i care about you...i want to see if we can be together....keep in mind i have nothing agsnst the army at all...
2007-07-21 13:00:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why would you want to waste your time with someone who has no intention on seeing you.
If he really liked you he would have fount away to see you months ago and he sure wouldn't have re listed in the army if you were serious without talking to you about it first.
I am sure that you have got to know this guy on some level but just talking on the phone or chating on the computer doesn't really give you a since of who they truly are.
I would move on with my life and find someone closer to home if I was you. Don't wait around for someone who may never give you the time of day after he goes to the army.
By all means still talk with him but don't commit yourself to someone who isn't even commited to you. Alot can happen in 6 years. How do you know that you aren't one in many women that he writes and talks too???
I would search for a man that I could see and talk with regularly. If for some reason god or fate would want you with this guy he'll find his way back to you.
But are you gonna sit around for 6 years and wait for a man that you have never seen or that has seen you tell you your not the one after waiting that long to begin with?
Not!!!! Start dating you may be letting Mr.Right slip on by you waiting for a man that may never come your way.
If it is meant to be with this other guy then it will be. Fate has a way of working these things out. But don't sit around and wait for this to happen go out and live life to the fulliest and if he is in your cards then he will surface sooner or later when the time is right.
Good luck and I hope that this helps!!!!!
2007-07-21 16:52:49 · answer #1 · answered by rockn75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may just a make up story he made so you might give him something for taking the time to see you. Watch out because you will get hurt when he really leaves for the Army and never writes/calls back. If he marries you before he goes to bootcamp is another story.
2007-07-21 13:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by rh m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you don't really know one another at all. You honestly can not expect this man to give up his life because you MAY want to be together.
If he is in the military or has been and is re-upping, then that is his choice. It's the only life he knows and, as a soldier, is very dedicated to what he believes in.
In all honesty, I would say this guy is not as into you and you want him to be. Maybe you will hit it off, maybe you won't....he has no guarantees and neither do you. I think it's very unfair of you to be pissed off for a decision that he made, that doesn't involve you to begin with. You are not his girlfriend, wife, mother, etc. You really have NO room to tell him what to do.
I think you have set yourself up for a major heartbreak!
2007-07-21 13:12:15 · answer #3 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's selfish, regardless of the merits of his decision of going to the army.
If he loves you he's be heart-broken to be going away from you, and you'd be assured of WHY he wanted to go back into the army.
The way your post reads, it sounds like an impulse for him to go...spontaneous almost. That's not how people who love each other talk about things.
I hate to say this, and forgive me for bringing this up, but......if comes to see you before he leaves, are you sure he's not coming to get laid before he goes?
Regardless......I wish you well with this situation. It's so hard to deal with someone that is acting like a cold fish. I hope all is and goes well for you(both), and that things ultimately work out for you.
2007-07-21 13:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
QUIT WITH This same old BORING question..GRRRRRRRRRRRRR. The man does not want you...it doesn't get any clear and louder than that. He is probably not even going into the army...just wanting to get you off his back..
I hope you don't ask this question for the 100th time
2007-07-21 13:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You can't change him so don't even try. As you see the heartache already with him it would best to move forward instead of backwards.
2007-07-21 13:10:38 · answer #6 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop asking the same question..His not that into you..
how many times are you going to ask this question..get a life...you don't mean that much to him....he wants to fight for what is Much more important to him than you..freedom for humanity....Now start looking for another man
2007-07-21 13:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by Life is FUn 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋