I have a male (30 ish) boarder for 2 or 3 weeks. The first night after dinner he said he would clear the dishes and wash up. I said no I will do them, you check out whats on the T.V or whatever. He started to clear up and I got a bit agro and said no man does the dishes in MY house. I think he felt a bit ummmmmm unwanted. It's just I feel it is my place to do the domestic things and let him relax while he is here.
2007-07-21 12:55:02 · 13 answers · asked by G G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would love to have a man in my kitchen any day of the week. They are great cooks and if he wants to pitch in and clean up then that makes it that much sweeter. Good for him.
2007-07-21 13:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may have felt a bit unwanted, unwelcomed or intrusive due to your response. Honestly, IF he wants to help, why not let him. It's nothing more than a nice gesture on his part.
It's his way of helping while he is around. There's no harm in him being polite and offering to help.
I think you should relax and let him do the dishes once in a while...it won't hurt and you deserve the break!
2007-07-21 20:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is strictly up to you and an admiral thing. I think he was just trying to help and ease the burden and 'repay' you for the meal you prepared.
There are a lot of men that are quite capable in the kitchen.....I'm one...and are quite capable of cleaning up afterward too.
To each his own, and between others may there be harmony.
2007-07-21 20:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women would love to have help in the kitchen.
Some people feel better when they are helping others.
I think it is selfish of you to deny someone the opportunity to feel good about something they did.
You "think" he felt unwanted. Of course, he felt unwanted. What if it was you who was spoken to the same way you spoke to that man? What if someone gave you a ride in his car. What if after the ride, you wanted to help him wash his car. What if he said: "no woman washes my car, in my driveway." That just sounds really stupid to me. sorry.
2007-07-21 20:20:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice that you feel so strongly about it but he was obviously raised with some manners also. I spend time in the kitchen when possible and I'm a damned good cook but my wife does more of those chores. there is NO problem with men in the kitchen.
2007-07-21 20:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, tell him that nicely and say that it is just your policy with your boarding guests. You can also tell him that you have insurance issues with anyone else inthe kitchen. He was just trying to be polite and it shows his mom taught him to help out, so he was most likely taught some other good stuff too. Don't be mad, just be firm and know that I love it when my husband is int he kitchen, cooking or cleaning up!
2007-07-21 20:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? I see no problem with a man cooking or doing dishes.
2007-07-23 14:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by Steiner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just trying to be nice
or he is a BIG clean freak
or it tigger him if the dishers or not done
or just let him do the disher and try to no worry about it so much
maybe u guys sould go out for dinner insteab
2007-07-21 20:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about whether he was a man or a woman. He sounds like someone that's trying to give you a hand. Would you feel as aggro about it if he were a woman?
2007-07-21 20:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by Taddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a boarder, he's paying you to live there, so you really need to work out the arrangements about dirty dishes.
2007-07-21 19:58:27 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋