My boyfriend is coming this December from abroad and wants to have sex with me for the FIRST time ever, I'm still a virgin and NEVER had sex before, I'm 22, and although I had a better period cycle, I've been skipping periods for 2 months, and I've had ultrasound and certainly not pregnant. Now my question is, how is it possible for me for not to get pregnant if my boyfriend doesn't use a condom just for one time-sex?? The thing is, I may not survive up to a marriage because I'm having terrible health problems, so I just want to enjoy a complete happy moment with him, because he's my first and only love so far....please give me suggestions regarding this.....thanks
2007-07-21 12:33:58 · 24 answers · asked by misty_air7 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I slept with my first boyfriend and the first time we had sex - I made sure I was on the pill and that he used a condom, because there was NO way in hell that I was going to let myself fall pregnant!
It's not just pregnancy you need to worry about but you should also protect yourself from Sexually Transmitted Disease's (STDs), unless the two of you have are tested at the same time by the same doctor/pathologist in the same session, to make sure you're both clean!
Picking up an STD can happen regardless of a person having sex with someone, they can also be caught other ways.
Save yourself the heartache, get yourself on the pill and buy a pack of good condoms!
2007-07-21 12:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You know theres only 30 days a woman can get preggers out of 12 months, and if your period is irregular you chances are lover than the 30 days, I would not go on the pill and when you are coming of it you body does not go back to normal for quiet a long time, it affects moods etc. then when you come of the pill and have your first period 8 months later (no joke) then you';; have ur second period within the same time frame, the pill does more harm than good.
The pill also thins out ur period till its nothing, like its an early menopause, then in this case you will end up with PCOS which is cycsts on the ovaries which cause infertility.
Just use a condom and have sex around the time ur not ovulating
2007-07-29 18:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by 1 kidlet & due in 9 weeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe all these prudes that are telling you not to have pre-marital sex...These people seriously need to get a life.....
Is there a reason why you can't go on the pill? Or better yet, why not use a female condom....? People are right about the fact that you don't where your boyfriend has been - no matter how much you trust someone you should probably wait until you are both tested for STD's before you have unprotected sex.
2007-07-29 09:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by nickyninedoors 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as safe sex if you are not using protection. I feel if someone has sex and is not protected then they are agreeing with the fact that they may get pregnant. They are saying that it is ok to get pregnant. We are smart people here and we all know that if we are not protected during sex then we will get pregnant. It only takes one time to get pregnant and especially with no protection. I am not for sure if you are willing to take the chance of this happening but just keep in mind the consequences that come along with having sex. Picture yourself pregnant and decide on what is going to happen with your life because you are pregnant. Think about how a baby is going ot change your life and are you prepared to make those changes. I feel it is very important not to have sex with someone until you are married. Do you have plans on marrying him or does he have intentions of marrying you? I would not want to bring a child into this life without having a husband that I can count on. Don't you owe it to this child that when it comes into this world you can provide for it and have 2 parents that are married? This certianly takes some time to think about. If this boyfriend of you truly loves you then he will understand if you do not want to have sex. Also, it may be worth knowing how he would respond if you do say no. Always be protected and please wait until you get married.
2007-07-21 19:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by lovelyandcarefree 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have to ask yourself, Why are you still a virgin?
Are there benefits to being this?
Are you missing out on something other than going through the motions?
Our bodies change/crave all the time and dictate to us what it wants. But is our body our mind? You know what is best for you. Temporary passion is the question at hand. Will he love me still if I wait? The true test of love is, do he respect you for you and not for what he wants from you?
If he says he can't do without it, that's a lie. Your virginity is the most precious thing you possess. It is not to be taken lightly. Anybody can have sex who has the desire. It is where you place your values.
In this life most people will experience sex. It will not be withheld from you. But you want to give it to the one you will spend your life with. The one who will be responsible for you and his actions if it causes pregnancy. Once connected sexually, you're hooked (sprung). Is he marriage material? Can he support you and your dreams/needs. If you can be true to yourself and answer these questions, you are well on your way to being responsible for what ever happens. The choice is yours.
2007-07-28 18:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by Dee D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend, Believe me, you are pursuing a fantasy that at best will lead to disappointment, at worst, could cause pregnancy or a disease. In marriage, a complete, trusting, Spiritual and sexual union is formed. Without marriage, sex is brokeness. Some of us are called to singleness and chastity. Focus on the Goodness and Light of God. Do not seek fulfillment in fleshly sinfulness. In the end, our bridge is built on the Spirit of the Lord Jesus. You can get support and information at a pregnancy resource center, which you can find by googling optionline, or call 1800afamily. Please take good care of yourself. Sincerely, Runner
2007-07-22 00:15:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I urge you to use some type of protection. If your health is that fragile, the last thing you need is a pregnancy. A condom is the best advice I can give you, but if you're dead set against it, use a contraceptive cream at the very least. Have a wonderful homecoming.
2007-07-29 18:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by cathy m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry about your health problems...That is really sad to hear. I would suggest getting on the pill because having sex with a codom is not like having sex at all. If you plan to share that happy moment then you want something besides a comdom because they take all the pleasure and fun out of sex.
2007-07-28 23:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by SunShine1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My rule is safe sex(always),why did u what a ultrasound you said" you were a virgin"? You know where you've been, but do you know where you bf that's coming from abroad has been? So you want your First experience to be a long lasting one(safe sex.....)
2007-07-29 12:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by misty m 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
use a condom its for the best and if you might possibly not make it you dont want to leave behind a child with no mother or have a very high risk pregnancy also im am sorry for you health problems
2007-07-21 19:46:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋