I'm 43 yrs old, and I've been seeing this fellow for 9 months. I really don't know if he loves me or not, all he does is joke around, kiss, and feel. He does treat me well but I don't see this going anywhere? Any signs that could help me figure this guy out?
2007-07-21 12:16:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After 9 months it seems odd to me that a man his age hasn't wanted more than jokes and a feel. Do you suspect he might be married and just flirting on the side? If not, it sounds like he may just be emotionally immature, which isn't a good thing, as we all know. Maybe you need to tell him you are confused about your relationship, ask him if he wants an exclusive one, if he is dating anyone else. if he minds if you do. Don't be afraid to be upfront with him. You need to know the truth about what this relationship really means to him and once you do then you can make a decision of whether to be with him or not. Good luck!
2007-07-21 12:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how you feel about him. Are you willing to put your heart out on your sleeve? Is he seeing anyone else? If you want to know if the relationship is going anywhere then just ask. Ask him, "What are we doing? Do you see this relationship going somewhere? Am I someone you could spend your life with? " Ask him point blank. No other way to get around it. 9 months is a long time for our age and not knowing what's in the future with this person we are spending so much time with. It could be, he's waiting for you to make the first move.....
2007-07-21 19:31:58 · answer #2 · answered by Laura B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. but I'm with him on this one. Too many people rush the "love" issue, resulting in too many divorces down the road. True love cannot be rushed. You may be able to rush him into saying it, but not the feeling. 9 months is nothing, I was dating my wife for over a year before either one of us actually said it. We have been married over 15 years now, with absolutely no problems what so ever. You may set him down and ask him what his feelings are, but don't bring up the L word or you could run him off. Be happy that you have a decent guy that wants to spend time with you and all things will happen in their own course. Good luck.
2007-07-21 20:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have been seeing him for 9 months and he hasn't told you he loves you, I think he just likes being with you. Maybe you should just sit down with him and tell him you like him but you want to know where your relationship is going. Or maybe he is waiting for you to make more of a move on him because he is not sure how far you are willing to go? I think you just have to be honest with him and ask. If you feel it is not going anywhere anyway then you have nothing to lose.
2007-07-21 19:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by Colleen G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question should be on the Dating Section!!
But anyway, I think that the wonderful thing about relationships is being able to communicate...
If you tell him what you feel and think he should be honest to you and do the same. Either way you don't see this going anywhere so I don't see why you don't ask if you have nothing to loose...
Good Luck!
2007-07-21 19:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by myliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is not sure where he stands with you and is going slow in the relationship until he gets some sort of sign from you?. If the answer is no and your communication is good, then he sounds as though he's not after a serious relationship. Good luck
2007-07-21 19:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, he should've told you by now. My bf told me he loves me within the first 4 months. He sees you as a casual relationship, and at least he's respectful. But if you want to know for sure the only one who can tell you is him.
2007-07-21 19:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 43 years old open your mouth and ASK him where it is going.
2007-07-22 02:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with us women is that we always want to rush men into commitment instead of just having fun and going with the flow.
Just have fun with him..When his ready to take it to the next level he will..If his not ready then that's ok too...JUST HAVE FUN...
2007-07-21 19:29:48 · answer #9 · answered by Life is FUn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are my age. Your gut feeling tells you all you need to know. Is not him that you question. Is you. Think about that then you can move forward. Good luck.
2007-07-21 20:17:00 · answer #10 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋