If we want to change a behavior, what can help us in this process?
Often if we were behaving or acting in a certain way all our life, it is very hard to change. I see this with others and I also experience this with myself.
Do you have some good ideas or examples, which you found useful in your own life, and which helped you to change?
2007-07-21 12:08:50 · 6 answers · asked by I love you too! 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
1. Try researching the "paradoxical theory of change" in psychology.
2. Accept yourself and others for who they are.
3. Accept that you're human and that you make mistakes. Guilt and anger are very destructive in terms of "acting out".
4. Try to let go of judging yourself and others. Most acts are rarely as bad as we think they are. As a result, we suffer more, inflict suffering on others more, and seldom resolve the source of the behaviour.
5. Understand your motivation and intention. Changing behaviour is a problem if you cannot accept what you do, why you do it and your goal in the behaviour.
6. If you can learn to give yourself and others, a second chance.
2007-07-21 12:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by guru 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Our best vision for our self already resides in us, as the Self.
We get a glimpse of it each time we connect with the divine, and so we want to instinctively move towards it.
We only need to focus on the light, and our reconnection, and let that light grow in us. As what we focus on, does.
Accepting our darkness as a part of our humanity, dissolves it, and helps our light that is our divinity, grow. You are feeling the discomfort as you have connected with it. So, keep the connection and let it grow.
You will notice what you want others to change in them; it is exactly what you need to change in yourself too. As we focus on what we carry within, so accept it and change yourself. As always only all change begins with self acceptance, and all love with self love.
When you focus on their light, your own light grows, and you draw their 'lightness' out in them and in yourself. Your interactions will become all about your collectively lightness and not about your darknesses.
Look for good qualities in others that you can absorb, so that you will attract more light towards you.
Above all, just ‘be’ the light that you are, and the rest will take care of itself.
2007-07-22 02:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by Abhishek Joshi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Human behavior flows from three main sources: Desire, Emotion, and Knowledge. So, pay attention to these things in you and you will succeed. Study stuff...science, psychology, math, medicine, language, music, etc.
Know Thyself.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-07-21 21:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by Alex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Plastic surgery
2007-07-21 19:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
a support system
2007-07-21 19:13:03 · answer #5 · answered by luminous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by new clothes(j/k)write down your goal and what you like or dislike eliminate dislike keep what you like and keep on improving yourself
2007-07-25 02:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by @NGEL B@BY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋