I have sex like twice a week if that and when we do have sex it for 35 min if that. I am only 27 years old and I feel the need for more but he always get up set. Plus when we do have sex he is, so rough with me and when I try to tell him to ease up he gets mad and we end up just calling it a night. What do I do about wanting more but getting less?
2007-07-21 11:52:22 · 12 answers · asked by Kiwi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try toys or do something to spice up the sex life like playing dress up. If that don't work I don't know what to tell you.
2007-07-21 11:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by Lovechild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same issue, although it's been going on for me since day 1. Not the rough part, but wanting more than he is willing to give. Right now, we're supposed to be trying to have a baby. We're lucky if we do it 3-4 times a month at BEST! I don't think that part will change for you. I think he is giving you what he is capable of. There may be things going on that are causing him to have a low sex drive. An enlarged prostate is one thing that can cause low sex drive. Also issues like anxiety and depression can cause it as well. If he is being rough with you, tell him in a loving way, guide him. he needs to feel like a man and perhaps being a little rough is what does it for him. Let him know he is pleasing you when he is. Like one of the other posters said, a man needs to feel like a man. Telling him he's doing it wrong will only cause him to want to be with you less.
If he is being really rough with you, then you may have another issue on your hands. You will want to be careful, because his roughness in bed could lead to his being rough elsewhere. Good luck!
2007-07-21 20:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by Renee C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well men are different from women but at your ages after say a session of 35 minutes it may take a few hours to get going again for the man but you can always go to masturbation or the use of toys during the interlude if you feel the need may even excite him to better efforts
2007-07-21 19:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by billc4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop asking him and let him do his manly duties. If he cant maybe yall need to talk about his needs. Men are more romantic then Women our minds are constantly thinkin about stuff we can do to make our women happy in and out of the bed. We may not do them but we always are thinkin about it. Or at least i do!!!! He may need to work out if he is not doing so. More blood rushes down there when fit. Try to role play if you havent!! If it has always been like this then yall have a problem. The more you say he doesnt meet ur needs or standard the less he will try! Sex is a mental game let him think hes the Man!!
2007-07-21 19:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin H 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
try showing him what you like in a fun way, go slow, start by back rub for both, kissing, touching...work your way up, until you're both begging for penitration, just take the reins, don't tell him, men do get offened, so show by your example, praise him when he's doing something the way you like, the more praise, he'll want to please you more. I think he just doesn't know any other way, so praise the good stuff a lot, he may want to do it more if he knows he's turning you on!
2007-07-21 19:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by cheryl c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait til your married, you'll be lucky to get 6 minutes every other week. Visit your local "goody" store and buy a little friend.
2007-07-21 19:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by Concerned Parent 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
35 minutes is a whole lot, or didn't you know. It is more difficult for men than women. he is giving you all that he has.
2007-07-21 19:02:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start off with 4play...like rubbing his hair, running your fingers gently over his body...start slowy and try to gt him to stay at that pace...if he doesnt then let him know in a sexy way like umm baby slow down it turns me on more when u take your time....
2007-07-21 19:32:38 · answer #8 · answered by sckr4luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the wrong thing! you should talk to him about that whenever but in bed,
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2007-07-21 19:04:18 · answer #9 · answered by ups2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-21 19:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋