she was with the nieghbor while we were apart and he dont know I know. He's a young guy who is gonna try and hang out with me like we was all buddy buddy...
how do I best handle this situation?
Also she is kinda on the post about our future with a wait and see kind of additude... we have a son who is about to turn two and I really want this to work out.. I had a previous family and I dont want a third..
I know I still love her and she isnt sure yet how she feels about me
we've been apart for 5 months and I have been 660 miles from there
what are some ways I can ensure our success as a family on my end?
what are warning signs I should be looking for and how do I maintain my cool under this kind of pressure?
2007-07-21 11:41:10 · 5 answers · asked by breezeblanco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell the neighbor you know about their affair. Don't be nasty, just tell him to stay away and give your relationship a chance. Talk to her, encourage her to share her feelings with you. Listen to her. Make her feel special..
2007-07-22 23:41:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest, if you know about this guy, then talk about it. Communication is what helps the most, if you don't talk to each other how are you going to know what the other person wants or needs. Remember I said to talk, not argue, big difference. The more honest you are the better, You need to figure out what made you leave in the first place, and make sure it doesn't happen again. When she sees that you really love her and want the best for your family, maybe she will come around. She was hurt also. It takes two to make a good marriage work.
As far as the other guy , have a talk with him and explain that if it was the other way around, he wouldn't want you around either. So it's time for him to move on. If you arn't married, then you should think about that also. Committment. it's got alot of meaning to it. She might feel better knowing you are committed to her, and having a family.
2007-07-21 18:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why were you away?anywat tell her that you love her and want to be a seriuos family with her.ask her if she would like to move somewhere else so you two can have a new start in a new place together.try to stay out of the house .take your kid to the park alot and take food for a picnic.let her know how much she means to you .romance her.make her first in everything you do.buy her candles and bubble bath soap.try to touch her alot(not sexually)always be by her,ang hold her hand when your out.my husbad and i do.he opens doors for me too.he gets me cards,flowers bears,any time he sees something he thinks of me.i know im number one to him,and he puts nothing in front of me.when you know she has chose to be with you,let your neighbor know that you know about him and that he is not welcome around you and your family.
2007-07-21 21:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try counseling. One on one and couples. Neighbor needs to be OUT of the pic. She needs to tell him you know and he is not welcome to come around, ever. Props to you for wanting to secure a family life for your son. Just maintain your cool, period. Swallow the pride and still stand up for what you believe. God Bless
2007-07-21 18:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by dollybrie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She aint sure how she feels about you? Then why did she have a child with you? I guess i'm too old fashion for today's world.
2007-07-21 19:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋