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2007-07-21 10:48:06 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think they shouldn't. to me it's cheating. lets get real. guys watch porn to mastrubate to because they have some type of hang up. wives feel that they aren't sexually rewarding or able to please their husbands. the truth is that guys think it's a freebee, howeever, their actions hurt their marriage, hurt their wives, reduces love making to simply f--king without emotional bonding that holds couples together.
2007-07-22 05:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
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2016-07-28 01:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. I'm a married man. I love my wife. Wives are souffles. Porn is scrambled eggs. Love, intimacy, mood, stress, everything outside the marriage bed joins you in the marriage bed. Porn has 2 dimensions: sex and beauty. No chat. No intricacy. No issues. A survey of women by the NIH (National Institutes of Health) indicates 70% of women would rather have chocolate than sex. What does this tell you? As for knowing "Genuinely" happy men, well...for that to be true, both people in the marriage would have to agree that every week, on a given day, for x amount of time, every aspect of their lives would be locked outside the bedroom door. They would just be two people of equal libido, enjoying all that the other person has to offer for pleasure sexually, physically, etc., with nothing from the rest of their lives having any bearing. Sex would be seperate from their marriage. In essence, an affair with each other. Those would be "genuinely" happy married men. But that doesn't happen. You don't have sex with your wife. You have sex with her job, her stress, your finances, and on and on. That's why men look at porn. Porn is sex without consequence or commitment. Chef's make souffle's. Anybody can make scrambled eggs.
2016-05-19 06:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you will reconsider the word "happy" after my answer.
I think that there is still repressed part of a husband personality who watches porn as a habit. He is trying to fulfill in fantasy what can not be fulfilled in real sexual life. An understanding wife who cares to know the deepest thoughts of her husband, the deepest fears, the deepest wishes, who shares him her most serious or silly thoughts , who accepts him however he is, the wife who acts like a real soul mate to her husband would not stop at certain limits of knowing him. When the husband feels that he can reveal all his personality to his wife, there is no more such splits. Mostly it happens that husbands still have a kind of masks to put even with their wives... these masks are behind such behavior. Patience, frankness, courage, love, intimacy, trust, acceptance, all these have the power to lift the masks between the husband and wife once and for all
2007-07-21 11:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All men watch porn even happily married ones so my advice would be try watching some with him or lay down some ground rules like you would prefer it if he only watched it with you or when you were both horny and see how he reacts but the reason men watch porn is simple we love womens bodies and sex.
2007-07-21 10:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by magnum 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Mens brains are different from womens. Men are typically stimulated by what they see whereas (I think) women are stimulated by what they hear and feel. That's why men look at women when they walk down the street.
If your man is watching porn then he just wants to have some fun. Maybe you need to pay him more attention or dress in something sexy. Honestly, he is not trying to hurt or cheat on you, even though you may think so.
2007-07-21 10:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by Rowdy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oprah did a show about this with Jay Lenno ... I guess they joke that "Boys will be boys"
"Why do men watch porn?
Seventy percent of men age 18–34 view Internet porn once a month.* "Once an hour" is more like it, Brian jokes.
Jay: There are two sexes out there. There are tons of female sites that are quite similar. I think women do it, too—I just don't think they admit it. I don't think [women] should feel betrayed. … Men tend to need visual stimulants.
Oprah: Jay, how would [your wife] Mavis feel if you were looking at porn every day?
Jay: I think she would be fine. I mean, I, you know…not to…well, I guess if I was looking at it every day…I mean, if I was suddenly, like, you know, I mean…um…I don't…I don't know that it would be a huge problem—
Rick: It sounds like it would be, Jay" (1)
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Christopher West disagree's and feels that the pannel of men do not represent most men. (Who saw the show on TV)
"I’m not a regular Oprah viewer, but I tuned in that day to see a panel of “experts” on male behavior, including Jay Leno, explain why men look at pornography, go to strip clubs, and cheat on their wives.
First of all, ladies, be assured, not all men do these things. One would have thought by watching Oprah that faithful men were extinct. Not so. But, alas, the pornographic culture has seduced a great many men. Why? All Jay Leno and his panel of friends could offer were excuses. Many of the women in the audience were visibly and audibly pained as they were told in so many words to “get over it” because “it’s no big deal.”
Why do a great many men look at pornography, go to strip clubs, and cheat on their wives? Because the human heart has been twisted by lust." (2)
2007-07-21 10:58:14 · answer #7 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
signs of being human..I find nothing wrong with my husband watching porn at all. I don't undersatnd why some women have a problem with that...Most men watch it no matter what..It's like saying "Why do some happily married women still wear Make up and still look attractive when they have found a husband"...Keeps you on your toes
2007-07-21 11:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by Life is FUn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
happily married men? are they getting some erotic porn at home? most women don`t do some things that men want them to do that's why they seek porn..i think that women should be excited that their man watches porn.. maybe they could bring some of that into the bedroom.. women should be there watching it right along with their man...
2007-07-21 10:53:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
My ex- husband use to watch porn all the time and I had a big problem with that. I would not have mind if he gave me attention but instead he lost whatever feelings he had for me. He made me feel like I was ugly because I could not understand why he was so into porn. I feel that he became a real pervert.
2007-07-21 10:52:37 · answer #10 · answered by Vicky 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why not? Men like porn. It doesnt mean we dont love the woman we are with who is hopefully our wife. A lot of women like watching it too- some just wont admit it. Porn is more fun to watch together but if she is a prude, he will do it alone when she isnt there.
2007-07-21 10:52:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋