in a muslim family when girls move out at after school its such a big deal and all other familys say " oh she's going to move in with a boy and sleep around. and if a boy gets a american girl pregnant is okay. and i wish i could have more trust upon me and i dont do that kind of stuff until i'm married i i only want to go to a awesome college because i want to make something out of my life instead of being like my brothers who smoke crap and drink (which is forbidden in are religion)
2007-07-21 10:43:19 · 5 answers · asked by Soccergirl15 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i understand what ur going through and how hard it is to go against your parents. I went through a similar thing coming from a hindu background.
i went away for uni. There was talk. But eventually when i made something of myself the talk all stopped and they were glad i did it. I didn't tell my dad and applied to places far away. When he found out he was angry, but it was a matter of education so i had to go away from home. Everyone forgot within a matter of months.
Let me tell you something i learnt. Respecting parents is a big thing in our culture but there are different ways to do it. Respect yourself and stand up to what you believe in. If you know what you are doing is in the best interest of your education then do it. Explain to your parents your beliefs, reassure them and let them know that they have no reason to not trust you as you have done nothing wrong till date.
They should agree.. but never give up for what you believe if you know you are doing the right thing. There will always be talk. Today it is about moving out, tomo it will be about clothes you wear, friends you have, a party you went to, or some place they thought they saw you in... - .. this is your life and your future. They won't always be there and you have to live this life. Live it to how you think is right!!!!..
i hope that helps. Feel free to get in touch with me if you want to discuss anything. I know many in your situation..
2007-07-21 11:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know how your family thinks-- that their own Muslim boys can screw around, run around, smoke dope and drink, but the girls must be protected from American boys. Work with what you have-- get your education and take it from there.
2007-07-21 10:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to ur parents tell them why its important for you to go to college...tell them that you need ur independence..im sure they would like u to have a better life for ur self...if u were doin pretty good up to this point why should they stop trusting you now?? dont let them keep u at home if thats not what u want...im asumming ur 18 now..u can make ur own decisions...u are ur own person..only u know what it is that u really want out of life...just try talkin to them...college is a once in a lifetime opportunity..
2007-07-21 10:55:18 · answer #3 · answered by carmenclassof06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suggest you talk to your parents, you aren't going to get any answers here. Especially since you haven't even asked a question.
2007-07-21 10:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That was not a question.
2007-07-21 10:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by Iknow 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋