She's single. I was married. My kids are adult and they will not be living with us. Its not them she disllikes.. She thinks they are nice kids. Its the fact that i already did a beautiful thing with someone else. I really love her and she loves me so much. She is trying to overcome her feelings. She s been to counselling and read about it. How can i help her do this. She has already met them and the day went very nicely. She is very open about this and it really gets her down sometimes. Im 45 and she's 37. She does want to get married and have kids of her own and she says she loves me like she's never loved anyone else and i do too. Please help me help her. It's too good a thing to lose.
2007-07-21 10:41:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
An adult woman who can't or won't accept the fact that a man has children sounds enormously immature. She needs to find herself a man without kids. Or get some serious premarital counseling long long before you even think about marrying her.
2007-07-21 10:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
So what you don't want any more kids? If so you better be down right honest w/her. And don't blame her if she leaves. for some woman, wanting a child is like tunnel vision they can't see anything else going on in there lives.
2007-07-21 17:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by Jen-Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she's not too good a thing to lose. A good woman would be happily accepting your children. If she is struggling with it, then she is not the right woman for you.
Sorry . . . but you deserve someone who loves you AND your kids.
2007-07-21 19:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by Suz123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has issues that will only make your life harder. Stop wasting your time with her and move on. If she can't get over the fact that you had a child with another woman decades before you met her. Sheesh
2007-07-21 17:46:19 · answer #4 · answered by Robert G 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If she cannot accept the kids, dump her fast. It'll only get worse. She needs to learn that you come as a package. -What's worse is that she will try to come first before your kids.
2007-07-25 17:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by Irene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd recommend counselling for both of you together.
2007-07-21 17:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her no problem....."let's make some kids from our own "
2007-07-21 17:47:31 · answer #7 · answered by Roberto D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's a bit old to have kids, isn't she??
it's not your fault she didn't have kids in the past, and it's not your fault she wants them now........
2007-07-21 17:45:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋