Last night at 4am my cell range and it was my brother he said a life long friend I grew up with broke in the house and attempted to rape our mother.At I wanted to kill him and at the same time I couldn't believe what happened,I mean you never think this can happen to your loved ones...only in the movies.Then when I went to my house to grab some stuff and come back to my Mom's the guy shows up balling his eyes out telling me he needs to talk to me he can't live with himself.Well as bad as I wanted to kill him.... I managed to compose myself call the police and have him arrested.Now I'm filled with mixed emotions of anger,hate,sorrow for my mother,sadness,sorry for him in a way,and just confused at what to do next.I would just like to hear some kind of reply other than the normal I would of beat,killed him and if anybody knows what I could do to help my mother thru this horrible situation.
2007-07-21 09:50:10 · 18 answers · asked by the Juggernaut 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
be very supportive to your mom, maybe later try to find out, if this guy was on something, what's going on in his head, when he came to you crying was it real tears or was it booze talking, drugs talking..... it will take time to calm down, BUT I WOULD HAVE CALLED THE COPS TOO !! AND YOU CONTROLLED YOURSELF ...... GREAT JOB !!!
2007-07-27 14:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by cherokee squaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you want an unbiased opinion, you need to get the hell away from your father. You say that you and your sisters were always close because of what you all had to deal with, well your father is now ruining the relationship with you and your sisters. Sound like both of your parents had their wrongs, and were not exactly right in the things they did, but it also sounds like your dad treats you like crap. You do not need all of this aggravation, I think your life would be A lot better with your mom and your sisters. I am a mother, and I believe that no father should be kept from their children, and I have also met fathers that are raising their children and are doing a great job. It is not a matter of what is right or wrong, or you feel you are betraying someone, the question is where are you going to be the happiest, and to me it sounds like being around your mother and sisters do that for you.
2016-05-19 06:22:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attempted rape is not going to carry much consequence in the justice system but as a young person they have time to grow and change and learn and the judge will insist on that so this person has a chance to get counseling hopefully and maybe understand they can't act on their feelings.
Your mom might be feeling responsible (because she was friendly to a kid who misunderstood that friendliness)
There are songs and movies about young boys hooking up with their friends moms, older women are seen as sex crazy for younger men, there are some people who can act normal and friendly and when they are consumed with some feelings they act with violence and animal behavior.
Your mom is not responsible for this person and you aren't either simply because you are friends. And in this country the punishment for rape in the courts is not death so you didn't let her down by not "avenging this with killing him and wrecking your own life"
Calm down and all of you meet with someone from the rape crisis center. Rape or attempted rape affects everyone in the family.
Good Luck.
2007-07-21 10:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by donny_mollysmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very obviously a very difficult thing to deal with. I would say I understand how you feel but I very clearly don't. All I can do is imagine what you must be going through. Some people would say you will have to weigh up who matters to you most ; your mother or your friend. In no way what-so-ever am I condoning what this person tried to do to your mother, but you have to remember you have been friends with this person, for I imagine, quite a long time and you don't know what he was thinking as he tried to do this terrible thing. As to what you can do to help your mom through this, there is not a lot, just make sure she knows that you are there for her, if she ever need you. Her knowing that will help her feel more secure. It may be worthwhile for you to find out about counseling.
2007-07-21 10:01:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by composing yourself and calling the police. Going after him and getting yourself arrested would not do anyone any good, you couldn't be there for your mother if you were in jail. Find a rape crisis center to help your mother go to for help,they will tell her what legal options she has and may even go with her to trial for support. Be there for her, listen to her, love her, that's what you can do. If you have a sister, make sure she is there to be with her, because it was a man who attacked her, and son or not, she just can't talk to a man intimately the way she could another woman.
2007-07-21 09:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is no rationality with a rapist.
And no matter what he had to say will correct the major wrong he has done.
Every time you see him come near your house tell him if he doesn't leave your calling the police.
Tell him he is no long a friend.
Be there for your mom, that's all you can do if she wants to hold you and cry let her, let her know you love her, help her to feel safe in the house tell her you checked the doors before bed and made sure they were locked.
2007-07-26 19:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by Bingo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive of you Mother and do not feel sorry for the sick individual that attempted to rape her. You should stay away from those kinds of people, have you learned you lesson as to who to trust and not to trust. Your mother is the one that is suffering. Stick by you Mother this will take her quite a while to get over, if she ever does. She needs to know you are supporting her totaly.
2007-07-28 00:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be there 4 her
2007-07-28 07:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a horrific betrayal of trust. You have thus far, handled yourself with amazing maturity. You are quite certainly a young man who will be there for his Mom. BTW, just ASK if there's anything you can do. Then, it's up to her. As for your friend, I would think the trust factor is totally gone...and without trust, there is no friendship. So sorry you have had to deal with this.
2007-07-29 04:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in a state of shock man. it will take time for you to process this. I have no idea why he would do such a thing, and you did the right thing by calling the police. i think I would try to get all the answers to this crazy situation from everyone possible. You need answers to end this confusion
2007-07-21 10:03:13 · answer #10 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
talk to the guy......find out WHY the hell he wanted to rape her......i mean, stuff doesnt happen like that for no reason.....stay as calm as u can about the whole thing, when talking to him, cuz people can sense when ur nervous, angry, etc. and they'll clam up, and u wont get anything outa him. juss be there for ur mom, if she wants to press charges, go for it..........and even tho its a tough situation, try not to blow up in anybody's face, cuz that cud screw a lot up, and nobody wants to be angry ata time like this.
2007-07-29 00:14:18 · answer #11 · answered by ;] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋