My sister is terminally ill and I would like to get something that is from the heart. I am totally in shoke and can not think clearly. Any help is greatly appreciated.
2007-07-21 09:34:40 · 16 answers · asked by promus69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get her a FAT coloring book (one for elementary school kids of 5/6) and a HUGE box of crayons ... and a stuffed animal to 'hug' when she needs some comfort. I know, she's terminal ... but I was given a 'terminal' diagnosis when I was 21 (3 months or less to live) and I'm now 56 ... yes, I beat it (it was cancer ... malignant melanoma, which was 98% 'fatal' when I had it the first time) ... and one of the things that 'kept me going' was my stuffed dog, and color book and box of crayons. I was in the hospital, and I actually 'shared' my crayons and color books with the other women (elderly women who were supposedly 'terminal' too) ... and it was OUR ROOM that people got better and went home from ... and had good lives after (I kept in touch with them for many years after) ...
Also, tell your sister to picture the 'cells' that are making her 'sick' as being small, weak, and wimpy, and her 'immune system' as being strong soldiers who can 'whack' the weak sick cells to death. If she can 'picture that' in her head five times a day, it's better than any 'medication' (but she'll still need to take her medication, of course) ...
And I'll pray for her, and for you ... tell her my 'story' and tell her that she HAS TO FIGHT and that she CAN WIN, CAN LIVE ... and help her do that ... it's the BEST CHANCE she's got!
2007-07-21 09:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kris L 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Make sure she has pics of all of her loved ones near her where she can see it when she opens her eyes. If she likes music get her a CD player and play music for her during your visits. I wouldn't take in big bouquets, but little ones or a single flower that she really likes. I would visit often and stay as long as she wants you to, hold her hand, hug and kiss her often, talk about old times, talk about her fears if she wants to and try to ease her worries. Don't let her illness become her, she is still your sister and her heart and soul are the same as ever! Be yourself and show her you care just by being there for her. Always ask her if there is anything she needs or anything she needs you to do for her. I am so very sorry!
2007-07-21 16:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by gma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is time consuming and it's a little expensive, but it is definitely from the heart. It's dependent on one thing tho.....if you have home movies or pictures of her growing up, her family, your family (when you were kids).
Anyway, I did this for my dad one year as a Christmas gift and he loved it....he wasn't ill tho. I took all the pictures I could find and took them to a place that converted them to a DVD format. They can and did include titles, and added some nice, tasteful background music. I went thru 583 (35 mm) slides. It was a lot of work, because I put them all in order, but it was so worth it.
You can let her borrow, or buy her a portable player she can watch them on, if she is able to. You can always bring in something that she can view these on if you have to.
It may inspire her and give her hope, and or give her peace that she knows she is loved...even tho I'm sure she does, but it's always nice to *know*....yanno?
I will say prayers for her.....be well....and may the Lord give your family blessings.
I gotta say...I love "..."s answer. He is indeed a wise guy for his age....phenomenal.....amazing.
The answer you have been given are all so good. Very touching....the kindness....the support and the love. It's so nice to see...and feel. I can't say enough about it. Had me ballin' readin' thru them all......and I don't want any points for anything....please. I only posted to give you an idea. Special stuff.
2007-07-21 17:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not put family pictures together in one of those frames that show pictures every few seconds or put them on a dvd with her favourite music behind it.
I would definitely write her a letter on why she's such a special sister to you, stating all the reasons. Maybe get all your family involved and have them write 100 reasons why we love you and then read it to her.
Read it to her when she's in pain or is upset and feels alone.
But the greatest gift you can give to her now is your time . It's not about HOW YOU FEEL, but how she is feeling, make her last days as pleasurable and emotionally satisfying as you can.
God Bless your whole family.
2007-07-21 16:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her. Let her know by your steady presence she can count on you. Do things for her, personal things she might not ask for, a manicure, shampoo her hair, a touch of make-up. Read to her when she is too tired to talk. Avoid asking her questions she can't answer. Sometimes, just sit with her. Be aware she is coping with this news as well, and may have a wide swing of emotions, day to day, hour to hour. If she cries, don't tell her to stop, just be with her. These gifts are the gifts of love. Every thing else pales next to them. Blessings
2007-07-21 16:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by crittersitterjenna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your love. ( XP i know sounds wierd coming from a guy) Just be sure to tell her you love her. Ask her about her dreams. If she says something like I always wanted to visit india, get her something from india to represent the cultures and people there. If possible, a hug. Someone to talk to would help. I know It's none of my buisness, but is her illness going to kill her soon(As predicted by doctors)? And her age? Things people want differ extremely on their age. With more information I might be able to give more of an answer. Sorry I can't give much now, with the little information. At least I tried : / ~~~Hope this helps~~~
2007-07-21 16:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by ... 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your time and attention would be the best gift. What does your sister like to do? Plan a "date" with her doing the things she likes to do. My brother died some time ago and he liked to cook. We had a family dinner where he could cook the things he liked to make and everyone came and enjoyed the time with him. He told me it was one of his best days.
2007-07-21 16:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by eei59aasd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she likes to read, a book, movies, a gameboy and games or a video concle if she is into that. Or a locket with a picture of you and her or a piece of jewlery engraved
2007-07-21 16:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time. Spend time with her. Don't ignore her condition, talk to her about it. Don't pretend it doesn't exist. Finally, ask your sister all the questions you would like answers to..I guarantee you'll think of more when she is gone.
2007-07-21 16:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time together is the best gift you can give your sister. Right now that is what you both need.
2007-07-21 20:04:03 · answer #10 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋