going down to TN we live in Ohio and pick up some furniture. Well they picked up the furniture and now they are at a race track. He said he didn't know they were going to go the the tracks and now they won't be home until to late to go out. This is one day, that I don't have my son. It doesn't happen very often and we actually have time together. He does this kind of stuff a lot. Do I have the right to be mad? What would u do?
2007-07-21 09:16:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh and the guy that says why haven't I talked to him about it?
I have until I am blue in the face.
But I am just to emotional!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-21 09:38:31 · update #1
I would let him know how i felt and if it didn't seem like he cared then yes i would be a little bit upset
2007-07-21 09:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by 2bit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this happens a lot why haven't you talked to him about it? You better get this straightened out right now before you end up marrying him and then decide it's not working for you. You need to make really, really good choices in your life as you have a child to think about.
I would have been upset after it happened two or three times (I like to give the benefit of the doubt) and would have had my say. If he doesn't like what you have to say and his selfish behavior continues he can leave.
If this isn't going to work for you, this relationship, then get out. You really need to concentrate on your child rather than your love life. You already had a love life and got a son out of the deal that you are responsible for and you owe your best to him. You can't give your son your best if you are focusing on your love life and getting upset with a boyfriend! Be the best mother you can be. You want your son to be a really good man.
2007-07-21 09:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by gma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Mindy,
Honey, get used to it. However, I would let my bf know that he really messed up a lovely time for just the two of you.
Men can be a bit insensitive at times (yes, it's an understatement). The main thing you have to keep in mind is that if you are not crystal clear with your intentions and expectations, he probably doesn't understand half of what you want from him. He doesn't have a crystal ball and you have to give him very strong "hints."
Marriage doesn't change this, either, so if you intend to marry him eventually, keep giving him clear signals that he can follow to keep both of you on the same wave length. Good luck, hon. Have patience. :)
2007-07-21 09:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
Well personally I would be upset. You were looking forward to it, he knew it and personally why would you want a man who doesn't treat you with the love and respect you deserve. He should be rushing home to you and looking forward to seeing you.
I would tell him to take a hike. You need a man who makes you happy, not someone who "does this to you a lot". You are worth more then this.
I wish you the best and good luck!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-21 09:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by Ann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have every right to be mad!! If this was just an isolated incident, then ..ok. But you just said it was a common occurrence. I would flat out tell him.. that's it..no more..>>"AFTER" you go out with friends and have drinks, and stay out "REAL" late. I hope you get the picture...btw...turn your phone off all night.
2007-07-21 09:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently the relationship is not important to him. I would be mad, especially if it's a common occurrance. If he doesn't want to spend time with you when it works out for you, then he isn't interested enough and you need to move on.
2007-07-21 09:21:18 · answer #6 · answered by Linda K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Arrange to go out with your friends on a similar date, he is a twit and not worthy of you.
2007-07-21 09:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by Rick J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb and find a man that will appreciate and respect you.
2007-07-21 09:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave his sorry *ss is what I would do. It is evident that he doesn't respect you. Do you think it would get better when or if you get married? NO WAY!
2007-07-21 09:20:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i wood give him one more go around and see how that gos for you.
2007-07-21 12:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋