What would be a good method to use when trying to gain more confidence besides saying positive affirmations?

Answer 1

First, examine what you have accomplished thusfar in your life. You can build on these accomplishments. If you have accomplished anything, it proves that you can succeed.
Second, consider the worst thing that could happen - death. Most things in life would not result in death. Thus, you are probably going to live through anything you try to do, whether you succeed or fail. If you fail, you will live to try again.
Third, consider that every time you do not succeed, examine why and learn from it. That will make your chances better next time.
Four, each success should help you gain more confidence.
Another consideration is to meditate. Sit in quiet for up to 30 minutes once or twice a day. Concentrate on your breathing thinking Breathe IN - Breathe OUT. Make every thought go out with each breath and think of nothingness.
Be kind and try to love everyone in a fraternal-sorority sort of way. You will have no regrets. The appreciation of others will sustain you, and it will be mutual.
Practice the positive affirmations, don't justread them or say them.

Answer 2

By doing possitive things too. For example, some have put me down so much with negativism, but beside saying positive things of myself, I do them. Like for example some have said to me that I could never do this or that. Well, I say that I can and did it. I was and English teacher but without a BA for 14 years. Some said that I would not last not even 3 years. Well it turned out to go for 14. I have heard a few teachers and neighbors say that I was not going to make it or be a good teacher. Well, I put my self in the possitive and did the most to prove that I am a good teacher. Well, after the first 2 years, while as a teacher, I was called to the superintendent of schools office to help out new teachers get started. Those who said no, saw that the yes was in and that I could and can and prooved it. My father was one who always had negative things about me. Well, I did learn how to drive and be the best driver of any vehical, I did become a teacher and later I did become a security guard that moved me up to top supervisor over 200 security officers and to leiutenant.
So say possitive things and do them saying "I can do this, I know that I am capable and able and only a mistake will show me that there is another way to do things", we all commit errors and mistakes but these mistakes are to tell us that the way we did things has to be done in a different way, in order and with purpose. Let the confidence in you come through.

Answer 3

Walk into every situation believing that you know what you are doing, and if not, then you will find out. Dont be fraid of anything. Be smart and coy, like James Bond, and don't care what everyone else thinks. Be able to laugh at yourself. Accomplish new things you havent done before. Take a medium sized risk. Most people in the world are not the brightest or best at everything they do. Just remember that no one is perfect, and be good judge of yourself, seek self-improvement, be tactful, have some courage, and make decisions on your own. SPEAK UP!

Answer 4

There is really no best answer-but to be yourself and learning to love yourself.
Basically - You can do anything you set your mind to doing. DOn't let people get you down..and see by you asking that question, you had to get up the courage to ask..
and you did it! You are already setting yourself up to BE more positive! Good Job!
A great way is to get involved in an Organization for community service..Doing for your self and the community and also for God.
There is:
Literacy Volunteers- You go thru a training class - and teach people how to read or do math - It is VERY rewarding.

Jaycees- The Jaycee concept is simple. Thru community service and you gain Personal growth and development and Leadership skills. By doing activites in a Positive atmosphere for all the right reasons, not because you have to , but because you want to. (I got involved while going thru a divorce and let me tell you- I felt sooo good -

There are the Community Projects they do- we had childrens christmas (local) fundraisers- - for the chapter and community.
Individual development programs, like Speak-up (speaking skills.) Time management techniques.. and Family/Spiritual Growth/
Management Programs- such as chairing the largest project the chapter does evey year -'selling fireworks"
I WAS HEAVILY INVOLVED THE BEST ORGANIZATION THERE IS--

Toastmasters is a good one, will help with public speaking. You may feel like a complete flop to begin with , but as you go thru the different levels of achievement- You will see how far you came. It is for your onw Personal Growth and development in Leadership and management. You get a lot of Positive feedback, but they will also help you prepare a better speech.

If you are not old enough for the Organization- You can do Speech and Debate on school...

If you just get yourself involved in an activity and set a goal- that is the best you can do. For me it was running (cross-country) and I wanted my Varsity letter..My coach was a "dragon lady" we did NOT see eye-to-eye, she didnt want me to succeed at all.. so that just gave me all the more reason to work harder and SUCCEED!

Set personal goals...dont make them too high and try and reach them.

OK so now i it is ( 30 yrs later) and I am injured..I feel good about just making it to physical therapy- and making it thru the routines I LOVE the pool so that is 1/2 the battle. But doing this for ME is what I am doing it for. Makes me feel good that I havent put on a whole lot of weight (easy to do) and I am maintaining.


To me the best thing I can do is something for the community.. Just give me a good feeling to know that i helped someone.. - and you will feel better about yourself.

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You can actually sign up for Free FearBuster groups and join conferences over the phone. They are aweson.

I have 4 of her books
Fearless Living
Fearless Loving
Do I look Fat in this?
Change your live on 30 days...

just wonderful books!!!
Rhonda Britton - good information - have you seen the "starting over" she was one of the life coaches ...

If you find ur self in negative situations.. walk away-- GIVE IT TIME HUN AND YOU WILL BE THE MOST POSITIVE PERSON THERE IS- lol

DOING WHAT YOU LOVE- YOU WILL LOVE WHAT YOU ARE DOING!

Answer 5

Positive affirmations must be balanced with truthful statements (balanced with good sense) If you don't want to come off as a buttlick. Saying nice things (positive) is nice. To emphasize good thing things only at the expense of conversation or truth is called asskissing. You have an opinion, use it with caution.

Answer 6

Well, obviously there's always alcohol. I've found that finding one flaw in every person I see boosts my self esteem, while I am in no way conceited if you can find one flaw in everybody (typically it will be a visual flaw) and exploit that flaw (mind you this is all in your mind) it should boost your confidence, because you'll see someone and be like damn I wish I looked like...but then you'll automatically find a flaw and think twice.

Worked for me, don't know how well it will work for you.

Answer 7

Take up a martial art. Even six months of one can do wonders for your confidence and self esteem.

Answer 8

love yourself no matter what..you're a beautiful child of God & you deserve love, we're all ultimately born from from God,our Creator, if not, then who? & God loves us so so much but we block it by errors that religion have made that God punushes us when we're bad, but God is all forgiving & loving, & He loves us like a mother/father only much ,uch more...
I find whenever I find down,I say to myself I love you anyways Gigi & if nobody else can can give you that right now, then give that to myself..

Answer 9

dress to impress and use good posture/body language...