My problem is with my ex-husband. We have been separated for almost 6 years, yet he still expects me to take responsibility for all the problems in his life. He kicked myself and our 2 kids out when they were 7 years old and 3months. We had been together for 9 years prior to that and he had convinced me through manipulation and degrading that he was the only thing important in my life and without him I was nothing. During the last 5 years I've spent a lot of time trying to stop thinking like this and move on with my life and have begun to succeed. This weekend I'm celebrating my first anniversary with my new husband, and I'm 26 weeks pregnant with our first child together. The lat year has been especially hard for my ex to deal with and has gotten to the point where no matter what happens to him it's my fault. He calls me and tells me he can't pay his rent because I'm making him pay child support, or he can't find a new girlfriend because he's still in love with me.
2007-07-21 08:28:29 · 3 answers · asked by Lostlove 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He still makes sexual innuendos and has nothing good to say about my new man. I wish he could just move on and take responsibility for his own life and let me live mine. My problem is that i still feel responsible for him and it really hurts me when he says it's my fault that his life is hell. When I try to distance myself from him he starts telling our kids all kinds of bad things about me and my new husband. Which causes problems and drags me right back into the middle of his drama. I guess my real question here is how I get him to move on and stop being a jerk? I want my own life without having to deal with him every week. Any advice or words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
2007-07-21 08:34:23 · update #1
You need to tell him unless it has to do with the welfare of your children, not to call. You need to point out to him that you have moved on and have started a new life, and that he is not a part of it . He needs to understand that he did not want you before and you don't want him now. Tell him you are sorry that he is leading a miserable life, but he is the one that choose it, If he wants it changed then do it and not to include you in any of the plans. Of course he's in love with you, because you where the only that listened to his garbage, but now you are smart and will not be manipulated another day.
2007-07-21 08:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl Friend he is still manipulating you. I wouldn't even let him be around those children. They must be what 13&6 by now. He is unstable. He is the type of person that thinks the whole world owes him. He made his bed. Just tell him to stop this nonsence or you will contact the courts and have his visitation changed to monitered or none. As fare as child support he don't want to pay, so he can play and thats the truth.
2007-07-21 17:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jen-Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to quit drinking and/or drugging and grow up!
And when he gets behind in child support throw his
butt in jail. He helped bring those children into this world - he needs to be a man and support them at least until they are 18.
2007-07-21 15:33:40 · answer #3 · answered by happy_southernlady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋