my partner cant accept my child?

Question

me and my partner have been together nearly 3 years now and he just cant accept my daughter and it is really annoying me he has got 2 kids from hes previous relationship and i treat them all the same they stay over on wekends but he is nasty to her ignores her if she is speaking to him always has to find something to moan about her what should i do as it is breaking me in two as i love him but at the end of the day she comes first and always will

Answer 1

trust me being ignored and or treated as a nuisance by a parental figure or an adult prominent in a childs life will do them damage, she will have a poor self esteem because of this as she grows up if she is in that situation,it could even effect how she relates to men when shes an adult, its so important that your daughter is loved and treated like she is special and important to you and whoever your with. if he is acting this way i would say there's a problem that cant be fixed, he should just naturally accept her as his own ,she is a part of you so if he loves you it should be a natural thing to love your daughter as well. get rid of him. i know that blunt and i know you love him but there's no question in a situation like that. best of luck to you.

Answer 2

It sounds like she might be starting to harbour jealous feelings towards your son because she can't always be the centre of your attention. When she got with you, she knew your situation and maybe it was a novelty to begin with (for her). Now it seems like it's more than she can handle. Your gf needs to handle things in a more mature fashion. It's understandable that your ex is going to call from time to time. Maybe you could have a word with her and ask her not to call on certain evenings (when gf is there). The bottom line is, if your gf can no longer accept your child, she needs to move on. You and your boy are the complete package and she knew the situation beforehand.... My bf and I live together, he totally accepts my three year old, if he didn't, he wouldn't be in my life. He has two children of his own and I accepted them totally....it's all or nothing, right? Anyway, his step daughter is an adult and very jealous of me....I am at the point where I will not put up with her ways....having said that, she's grown up and needs to get a clue but, it's different when you have little ones in your life. They have to always come first. That's my outlook on this matter. Good luck with everything and I hope it all works out for everyone involved.

Answer 3

If you continue this relationship you are contributing in the abuse of your daughter. The way he treats her is unacceptable. How can you say you love a man who treats your daughter like this. You need to gain some self-esteem and find a good man who can be a good role model for your little girl. No one at all is better than this!

Answer 4

You answered your own question. She has to come first. If he can't treat her well , it is time to get her away from him. If you stay,when she is older, she will go toward some man that will treat her this way, thinking that this is how you are loved. She will be setting herself up to be abused, because that's all she knows.

Answer 5

You answered your own question
your children will always come first
if he cannot accept that then it may be time to move on and find someone who is willing to respect her. It is not fair that you treat his kids with respect and he doesnt even bother to acknowledge her -

Answer 6

You brought that child into this world - now either raise her or get her to someone who will love her and protect her. No one is worth more than your children!

Answer 7

If he can't accept her, then you need to find someone that will. She is your flesh and blood, no man should come between that. Good Luck !!!

Answer 8

he is an as hole